"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When She Talks Really Negative About Her Ex...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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When she is mad at you those are the things she will accuse you of being also.. Many times its the way she sees most men due to her own issues with her dad..
Women/humans lie alot.. but the information contained within a lie can still be very useful in aiding your strategic formulations....
Magma
Senior Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Because it's a sign that they’re either not over their ex-bf or they had no respect for their ex-bf and ran all over them before breaking it off.Disco said:why is it a red flag? please explain more.
If she says things like that, you should observe her character and proceed cautiously.
She's now spreading absolutely identical rumours about me. ****ing ridiculous. She's using it to get whatever attention she wants.
She = my ex, not your gf by the way. I would just be wary of anyone who complains about their ex non-stop like that.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Now it just really depends if you like her or not. Then the next time you ask her out, hold her hand... if she squeezes back then you're in, if she pulls away then you have no chance, move on.
Don't leave her before you know what she's wanted. It's all about getting the experience to tell what signal she's trying to send
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ive got first hand experience of this, an ex. They know he's useless, bad news etc, but believe it or not they could and sometimes do go back to them. Im not saying she'll cheat (but never rule it out, ever!) but if you broke up tommorow you shouldn't be shocked if the atleast has a fling with him again. Thats how girls work, they dont act with their heads.
anyway, maybe she is pretty repulsed by her ex, alot of relationships end like this. But still, you stay neutral. She could ***** about him all day but shag him that night, literally.
puma183
Don Juan
A woman who rants about how terrible her ex BFs were to her is telling you one thing: she has bad taste in men.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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haha so true, but could it be a shyt test?Jitterbug said:Women b!tch about their ex to shift all the blame on the guys to forget about the fact that they CHOSE to be in that relationship and were a part of it. Just one of the ways they deny accountability for the choices they made themselves.
A woman who rants about how terrible her ex BFs were to her is telling you one thing: she has bad taste in men.
Don't think it's a test, but if it is, I believe that a sh!t test says just as much about the woman doing the testing as it is about the man dealing with it. In other words, she's still low quality.Azudragon said:haha so true, but could it be a shyt test?