"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When She Stops Texting You Back [The Harvey Specter Rule]
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
oldmanofthesea
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Yeah I disagree with the guy in the video where he says to text her later. He mentions a lot of times a woman may have gotten busy and forgotten and then so much time had passed that it became awkward for her to respond, and that you should text her again to re-engage the dialogue. But I don't buy that. If a girl likes you, she's going to respond to you. Not responding is rude and she knows it. If she doesn't respond, she is either not interested in you, or she's playing a game, and if she's playing a game and actually likes you, she WILL respond or reach out later. It's as simple as that.
backseatjuan
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She could be running a neediness test!
Definitely agree with @oldmanofthesea
If you do re-engage, the effort it takes to calibrate is usually much higher coupled with a much lower success rate, in my opinion. From my experience, it can be done but it’s never what it first was and the incongruencies that followed often ate me in some way.
If you do re-engage, the effort it takes to calibrate is usually much higher coupled with a much lower success rate, in my opinion. From my experience, it can be done but it’s never what it first was and the incongruencies that followed often ate me in some way.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.