"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When She Stops Texting You Back [The Harvey Specter Rule]
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
oldmanofthesea
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Yeah I disagree with the guy in the video where he says to text her later. He mentions a lot of times a woman may have gotten busy and forgotten and then so much time had passed that it became awkward for her to respond, and that you should text her again to re-engage the dialogue. But I don't buy that. If a girl likes you, she's going to respond to you. Not responding is rude and she knows it. If she doesn't respond, she is either not interested in you, or she's playing a game, and if she's playing a game and actually likes you, she WILL respond or reach out later. It's as simple as that.
backseatjuan
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She could be running a neediness test!
Definitely agree with @oldmanofthesea
If you do re-engage, the effort it takes to calibrate is usually much higher coupled with a much lower success rate, in my opinion. From my experience, it can be done but it’s never what it first was and the incongruencies that followed often ate me in some way.
If you do re-engage, the effort it takes to calibrate is usually much higher coupled with a much lower success rate, in my opinion. From my experience, it can be done but it’s never what it first was and the incongruencies that followed often ate me in some way.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.