"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When she pops "Are you a virgin?"
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most certenaly it will make the whole act more pure, and she will make an effort to put you confortable.
My first GF knew she was my first. And my second knew she was my second. Both before sex.
Also, why should your first time be part lie?
Good luck with her.
How does one go about even answering the question without sounding like:
a.) an ultra conservative
b.) a guy who can't get laid
c.) a horndog with lots of careless sexual encounters
As to admitting the truth... Sometimes the truth leads to ruin.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Brilliant.Charm said:
I just thought of one...
Her: So, are you a virgin?
Me: No, I lost my virginity to Jill in grade school.
Her: Um... Ok.
Me: You know, Jill! (hold up left hand, and show her how each of the fingers outline the letters J-I-L-L)
It's corny, but it might bring a laugh.
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Fortunately I did pretty good my first time too so she wasn't suspicious.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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bigbag said:
If she asks, you should go ahead and tell her your a virgin. Alot of girls will find this flattering and might feel compelled to teach you some things. Also, if you lead her to believe that you've had sex before, she's going to expect you to perform like it (not many guys; if any, can pull off a superman type performance on their first time). I would just tell her up front so that she knows and would be more understanding to a possible early ejaculation while looking forward to your second erection.
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People don't look down on you if you are a virgin.
But people can look down on you if you are a virgin.
They'll think to themselves, "What's up with this guy? Why is he not getting any? He probably has something that's not making him attractive?"
When I was a virgin, I would just lie and tell them I wasn't.
And I left it at that. They don't tell you, but a man who isn't a virgin is more attractive than a virgin.
Now, I'm not a virgin. So I don't have to lie about it anymore.
Just put it this way.
If you tell them that you are a virgin, they are going to ask you a lot of questions and it will get annoying. And it's embarassing when everyone knows that you are a virgin.
If you tell them that you are not a virgin, the conversation ends there. And nobody bothers you.
Lie until it becomes the truth.
OfficeSpace
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Why lie about being a virgin? Why not be proud of it? If you don't act like it makes you undesirable, and act like you're proud of it, people will respect you for it.
It is the MTV/pop culture that tries to sell the lie to everyone that being a virgin means you're unable to get some. Stop being brainwashed by the pop culture. It's rediculous.
Don't be pressured into losing your virginity just because a lot of people say they aren't virgins. I could care less if all my friends were no longer virgins and I was the only virgin in the group. I am willing to wait until I find the right person to be my first.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
if the girl asks whether you're a virgin or not, if you're not, you're not! why would you even lie about it? It'll only make you feel stupid, and when she finds out that you really are, it only makes you feel stupider.
a great way would be the C&F way. if she brings it up, just turn it into something wacky, funny, and not as serious of a topic.
Canadiandon
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OfficeSpace
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haha that's awesome man! Yeah, why lie about being a virgin.Canadiandon said:
Bad Advice!! What sort of experience do you have that this works well for guys? It might have worked well with the girl you were with (given you are not a virgin which you very well may be) but it isn't great advice for every situation.True Realness said:
There's no reason you should ever have to tell her. You might tell her you'd love for her to teach you a thing or two, but whether or not you are virgin is none of her business.
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NeonBase said:
Yeah it is but you gotta say it in a certain way like how David Duchovny (from the x-files) would say it with a little smile or something like that without it sounding wierd.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.