"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When she pops "Are you a virgin?"
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most certenaly it will make the whole act more pure, and she will make an effort to put you confortable.
My first GF knew she was my first. And my second knew she was my second. Both before sex.
Also, why should your first time be part lie?
Good luck with her.
How does one go about even answering the question without sounding like:
a.) an ultra conservative
b.) a guy who can't get laid
c.) a horndog with lots of careless sexual encounters
As to admitting the truth... Sometimes the truth leads to ruin.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Brilliant.Charm said:
I just thought of one...
Her: So, are you a virgin?
Me: No, I lost my virginity to Jill in grade school.
Her: Um... Ok.
Me: You know, Jill! (hold up left hand, and show her how each of the fingers outline the letters J-I-L-L)
It's corny, but it might bring a laugh.
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Fortunately I did pretty good my first time too so she wasn't suspicious.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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bigbag said:
If she asks, you should go ahead and tell her your a virgin. Alot of girls will find this flattering and might feel compelled to teach you some things. Also, if you lead her to believe that you've had sex before, she's going to expect you to perform like it (not many guys; if any, can pull off a superman type performance on their first time). I would just tell her up front so that she knows and would be more understanding to a possible early ejaculation while looking forward to your second erection.
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People don't look down on you if you are a virgin.
But people can look down on you if you are a virgin.
They'll think to themselves, "What's up with this guy? Why is he not getting any? He probably has something that's not making him attractive?"
When I was a virgin, I would just lie and tell them I wasn't.
And I left it at that. They don't tell you, but a man who isn't a virgin is more attractive than a virgin.
Now, I'm not a virgin. So I don't have to lie about it anymore.
Just put it this way.
If you tell them that you are a virgin, they are going to ask you a lot of questions and it will get annoying. And it's embarassing when everyone knows that you are a virgin.
If you tell them that you are not a virgin, the conversation ends there. And nobody bothers you.
Lie until it becomes the truth.
OfficeSpace
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Why lie about being a virgin? Why not be proud of it? If you don't act like it makes you undesirable, and act like you're proud of it, people will respect you for it.
It is the MTV/pop culture that tries to sell the lie to everyone that being a virgin means you're unable to get some. Stop being brainwashed by the pop culture. It's rediculous.
Don't be pressured into losing your virginity just because a lot of people say they aren't virgins. I could care less if all my friends were no longer virgins and I was the only virgin in the group. I am willing to wait until I find the right person to be my first.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
if the girl asks whether you're a virgin or not, if you're not, you're not! why would you even lie about it? It'll only make you feel stupid, and when she finds out that you really are, it only makes you feel stupider.
a great way would be the C&F way. if she brings it up, just turn it into something wacky, funny, and not as serious of a topic.
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haha that's awesome man! Yeah, why lie about being a virgin.Canadiandon said:
Bad Advice!! What sort of experience do you have that this works well for guys? It might have worked well with the girl you were with (given you are not a virgin which you very well may be) but it isn't great advice for every situation.True Realness said:
There's no reason you should ever have to tell her. You might tell her you'd love for her to teach you a thing or two, but whether or not you are virgin is none of her business.
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NeonBase said:
Yeah it is but you gotta say it in a certain way like how David Duchovny (from the x-files) would say it with a little smile or something like that without it sounding wierd.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.