When she goes silent on texting

[Die Hard]

So you meet someone at a party, there's lots of flirting, she shows very clear interest and you number close her.
When you get home that night, you text her. She responds within minutes and the two of you start joking and have a fun light convo of 6 or 7 texts from each side, all positive vibes.
Then all of a sudden she doesn't respond to your last text. I'm not talking about a moment where you've exhausted the topic you were discussing and it would be natural to go silent. I'm talking about a situation where you are clearly still in the middle of a conversation.

So you wait...the next day...the next two days...which turns into eight days. At that point, I personally draw my conclusion: She has very low interest or she is trying to play mindgames. Either way, I give up and delete her number.

I already know many guys will think along the same lines here and tell me that's the right thing to do, don't double text etc..
Still, I'm curious if some of you have carried on in such a situation, where you did double text the woman and had a positive outcome after all. I'd like to hear those stories if there are any, maybe I can learn something from it!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's simple.

Whenever you meet someone in an atmosphere where alcohol, fun and late nights are involved, you assume your window of opportunity is THAT NIGHT and if you don't make something happen it's unlikely you will see her again.

Why? Many reasons. She might be open to something happening that night but might be in a complicated relationship or have a boyfriend or be on/off with a guy. She might get swept up in the fun but then have more time to think and go back to her default. She might not see anything going anywhere but was open to fvcking that night.

You always operate under the assumption that if you don't make something happen that night then nothing is going to happen.

This single principle would save men a LOT of time and redirect their efforts.

 

[Free_Agent]

I honestly believe the women give out their phone/social to avoid confrontation of saying no, I have a bf, not interested, etc. They might txt you a bit for attention and then it dies off. I believe this is the case more times than a scenario such as BackInTheGame78 laid out.

Once they dont respond within a day, I delete it. Everyone woman is glued to their phones these days and if they're unresponsive that means low interest i.e. you're wasting time.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Whether she's a flake/AW or has a legitimate excuse (urgent matter, e.g.), same rule applies: Let her be. In whatever case too much follow up will be repellent. I would say after a few weeks maybe you could do one more text, but generally lack of communication is communicating something.

 

[The Duke]

Yes I have double texted a day or two later and got things going again. At this point I ask them out. That way I know by their response how interested they are.

Usually this isn't a good thing, but you aren't out anything by pushing things along and finding out for sure. Definiteley beats wondering.

Always remember a woman with high interest will never leave you wondering. To be successful in the long run those are the ones that work out the best.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yes I have double texted a day or two later and got things going again. At this point I ask them out. That way I know by their response how interested they are.

Usually this isn't a good thing, but you aren't out anything by pushing things along and finding out for sure. Definiteley beats wondering.

Always remember a woman with high interest will never leave you wondering. To be successful in the long run those are the ones that work out the best.

Too many men mistake "I'm interested RIGHT NOW" for "I'm interested" in these situations.

 

[ValiantMale]

I don't think about it much because i never put that much value on an interaction with someone I barely know or who barely knows me.

Besides that I think @BackInTheGame78 hit the nail on the head with the first reply to this post.

 

[BadBoy89]

Too many men mistake "I'm interested RIGHT NOW" for "I'm interested" in these situations.

It takes time to build something up and develop respect.

Unless she wants to sleep with the guy within minutes of meeting him, what does a girl expect when she says “I’m interested right now?”

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It takes time to build something up and develop respect.

Unless she wants to sleep with the guy within minutes of meeting him, what does a girl expect when she says “I’m interested right now?”

Ain't nobody meeting up at a party trying to build "respect". That's "let's talk and fvck" territory.

Misconstruing the intent of the interaction is where most men go wrong.

 

[Gamisch]

Yes I have double texted a day or two later and got things going again. At this point I ask them out. That way I know by their response how interested they are.

Usually this isn't a good thing, but you aren't out anything by pushing things along and finding out for sure. Definiteley beats wondering.

Always remember a woman with high interest will never leave you wondering. To be successful in the long run those are the ones that work out the best.

I'd even double down on this by saying that a woman who's interested will show your her BEST and be overwhelming ( especially if you've been dealing with lukewarm interest for too long).

The problem most men have is ( as I keep saying) VOLUME. Lack of volume creates scarcity and makes you hold on to something to should've been let go long time ago.

It's also a testament of the lack ( or unwillingness) of understanding female nature. Even IF you manage to hit it after pushing the issue, you'll lose because your EGO will get rejected soon after again and again and again.

It takes an extremely strong man to push a uninterested hot woman for sex actually,get it and next completely let go or be let go without getting in his feelings..

 

[BaronOfHair]

Either way, I give up and delete her number.

Yeah, when such events occur, I generally presume that chick in question was grabbed off the street by a couple of generically Eastern European thugs on her way home, then taken to a party like the one here 46:39-52:14

Hanging on to her number, when SHE HERSELF has likely been deleted, makes less sense than providing Sydney Sweeney with a one-piece before she hits the pool, then expecting that she'll actually know what to do with swimwear which doesn't double as dental floss

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP if you're vibing and she's drunk and you don't go for the hookup you need something to hook her. At the very least pitch a date or 2nd meet or sext her. Positive vibing is fluff talk without something that stands out. Otherwise she will forget you since she was partying and/or drunk the whole time you were interacting. Without a solid hook she will forget you since you didn't get intimate.

In this case she simply fell asleep and you were one small photo on a giant collage wall of memories, lost in the mix. And the photo caption read, "the guy who didn't make a move".

 

[Bingo-Player]

This is a very very common occurrence and I don't fully understand the psychological aspect of this because I am not a woman but from listening to some female friends I think it basically boils down too low interest

Even moderately attractive women have to deal with male attention from a very young age , most of this attention is unwanted or unnecessary for them so they generally develop techniques such as ghosting conversations in OP's scenario

Guys are often like " oh well if she wasn't interested why give me her number " again women are do not like confrontation or aggression its easier to give the number make some small talk and then ghost rather than risk an argument or potential assault

Some women do enjoy playing mindgames with prospective dates to see how badly the dude wants her , its like a powerplay

Some men do enjoy playing these catch me if you can games , but for me I always found them tiring and annoying

i would often lose interest and move on.

The women I've had the most success with always give me equal or even more interest than I was giving them.

Basically anything other than equal effort from a woman is a red flag

 

[Desdinova]

Then all of a sudden she doesn't respond to your last text. I'm not talking about a moment where you've exhausted the topic you were discussing and it would be natural to go silent. I'm talking about a situation where you are clearly still in the middle of a conversation.

So you wait...the next day...the next two days...which turns into eight days. At that point, I personally draw my conclusion: She has very low interest or she is trying to play mindgames. Either way, I give up and delete her number.

Don't wait 8 days. Wait until the middle of the next day to poke her half-dead ass, but start a new topic. If there's no response after that, write her off.