Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
When she asks "what did you do last weekend?"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
CrunchyNut
Don Juan
Have you been reading my diary?onyx said:
On a serious note, this is your chance to tell a story. You must have done something interesting over the weekend. What was it?
I usually don't go out with tons of friends, so when talking to a girl, this is the only question I hope she doesn't bring up. Because what ever I'm going to say, it won't be "I went to a sick party"...and she won't think good of me. That's how I see it.
Any advice of how to avoid / have a good reply to this question?
Thank you.
Why the hell are you fooling around doing nothing on weekends anyway?
If you don't use this too often with the same person, you can just say that you rested after having a stressful work week or w/e
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
lol funny thing is I've done said something similar too. "I Jerking off all saturday night."onyx said:
She was actually curious as to whether I was serious or not and then asked me if I really jerk off, and it turned into a nice sexual talk.
Thing to keep in mind is just keep it playful, you can always give a fake answer and then a real one, and it will mainly come out good anyway.
Francisco d'Anconia said:
Generally? No, I don't.
Women aren't interested in anything I do. Am I supposed to start doing things I don't care for just to be interesting to them? Take up sailing or yoga or some bullsh1t?
I lift weights. -> they don't care except for the results. hell they even b1tch about my diet and that my diet will make me sick because they haven't the slightest clue about nutrition. Nevermind that i never get sick.
I play softball. -> they don't care
I play video games -> they don't care
I write software -> they don't care
I watch football and hockey -> they don't care
I read books. -> no one reads books so they don't care
They don't give two ****s about what I do in my free time and have no desire to talk about it. Except for the RARE girl that cares about maybe 1 or 2 of those things herself. And that's usually an ugly girl because she was forced to find something to do other than partying and going out because she wasn't popular.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're sarging the wrong women, point blank. Why waste time on women who don't have common interests with you?mrRuckus said:
From your list I can say that I am seeing three women who enjoys and are active in almost everything on your list. Two of the three who aren't into video games and as for software development, nobody is interested in that.
typical
Master Don Juan
But then again alot of thins I do dont interest her either, like going to the drags on friday and saturday nights and lining up my car against the other fellas. That sort of stuff, she likes to hear the stories anout but I can tell shes just oogling at some various body part/s and waiting for me to stop and start making out LOL
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Making up some stuff you didn't do during the weekend is just as bad as coming up with lame pick up lines. Go out there and do actual stuff and then you will have things to talk about.banGbro said:
If every weekend consists of staying home alone and spending it on the computer/television then lying about it to a chick will not change the situation in your life.
FIRST GET A REAL LIFE AND THEN GET THE GIRL TO TAG ALONG.
Just to add one more thing: if she is asking about what you did during the weekend consider that as her being interested and there is little you can do to mess this answer up. It is the rest of your conversation skills and increasing her interest in you is what you should be concerned. In actuality she doesn't really care what you did during the weekend but she most likely cares about how you make her feel and act towards her as your speak.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Maybe there should be a RUP for dating... Hmmmm......eko said:
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.