Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Have you been reading my diary?onyx said:i say i jacked off over barney the dinosaur
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
lol funny thing is I've done said something similar too. "I Jerking off all saturday night."onyx said:i say i jacked off over barney the dinosaur
Francisco d'Anconia said:DO you guys do anything at all that would be interesting to women?
You're sarging the wrong women, point blank. Why waste time on women who don't have common interests with you?mrRuckus said:Generally? No, I don't.
Women aren't interested in anything I do. Am I supposed to start doing things I don't care for just to be interesting to them? Take up sailing or yoga or some bullsh1t?
I lift weights. -> they don't care except for the results. hell they even b1tch about my diet and that my diet will make me sick because they haven't the slightest clue about nutrition. Nevermind that i never get sick.
I play softball. -> they don't care
I play video games -> they don't care
I write software -> they don't care
I watch football and hockey -> they don't care
I read books. -> no one reads books so they don't care
They don't give two ****s about what I do in my free time and have no desire to talk about it. Except for the RARE girl that cares about maybe 1 or 2 of those things herself. And that's usually an ugly girl because she was forced to find something to do other than partying and going out because she wasn't popular.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Making up some stuff you didn't do during the weekend is just as bad as coming up with lame pick up lines. Go out there and do actual stuff and then you will have things to talk about.banGbro said:What do you say when she asks you what did you do last weekend/last night?
Maybe there should be a RUP for dating... Hmmmm......eko said:i wouldn't mention the software development
im a programmer. in my experience, girls + software development is a recipe for disaster. haha
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.