"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When She Asks "Do You Want To Know Why I'm SO Attracted to You?"

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I had my favorite girl ask me this recently but I was so content at the time I didn't even have a reaction.

I thought "You're SO attracted to me?? Who needs a reason!?"

In a way I wish she would have told me the reason(s) - God knows I need all the help I can get. But wouldn't my asking have been approval-seeking behavior? Should we ever ask a woman why she's attracted to us?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Who Dares Win

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I admitt that would have confused me as well in terms of reaction, asking means buying her frame and as you said show approval seeking behaviour.

A ****y responce like "cant really tell I have so many qualities" while satisfy the general rules, doesnt sound great to me either.

I guess I would opt for the "ignore and move to other" tactics that I use anytime Im confused or smell sh1t tests from a woman.
 

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I would've said:

"Nah I already know the reasons why" smile; change the subject.








PIMP
 

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I disagree with the prior posters. Assuming she's not f*cking with you and was going to actually tell you positive things about you, it could only work to your advantage to have her list them off.

Look up "cognitive dissonance." When you have a girl list positive traits about you, she starts to believe them.

They did this in communist "re-education" camps back during the cold war. They'd take prisoners and make them write about why communism was so awesome. After you write a few essays like that -- even if there's a gun to your head forcing you to do it -- you start to believe what you've written.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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One of the few times I fully agree with Z. I would simply say, "Yeah, why?" and let her self-confirm my wonderfulness. The more she verbalizes that stuff, the better.

Remember, we men speak after we have formulated our thoughts. Women, on the other hand, formulate their thoughts by speaking. When she verbalizes how great you are, she is actually convincing herself and putting a period on it.
 

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"Do You Want To Know Why I'm SO Attracted to You?"
"I guess. Only if you're quick." *sigh* "Yeah, OK- go ahead." :p
 

Who Dares Win

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Atom Smasher said:
Remember, we men speak after we have formulated our thoughts. Women, on the other hand, formulate their thoughts by speaking. When she verbalizes how great you are, she is actually convincing herself and putting a period on it.
Worth as signature quote.
 

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"Do You Want To Know Why I'm SO Attracted to You?"


"well, you're only human"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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