"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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when she acts like nothing happened

princesimba

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So say:

A girl disrespects you (completely ignores you for a week)

and then a few weeks later acts like nothing wrong ever happened (re-establishes contact "Hey! I missed you how;ve you been!" kinda stuff)

How are youu supposed to respond when she's:

1)Someone you can ignore (met her through a club)
2)Someone in your workplace
3)a friend you regularly meet up (with other friends)
4) girlfriend

or any other situation you can think of. Im not really interested in the exact response im more curious about the attitude one should be having
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SirFratserlot

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Lol kind of the same thing happened to me today. This girl was obsessed with me and we started messing around and than she went in to ***** mode and i told her off and established no contact. 3 weeks later shes snapchatting me lol.
 

VladPatton

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You act as if indeed, nothing happened, and all is normal. No need to slingshot yourself back to AFCville.
 

princesimba

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VladPatton said:
You act as if indeed, nothing happened, and all is normal. No need to slingshot yourself back to AFCville.
care to explain what you exactly u mean? :D
 

the_stig

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princesimba said:
So say:

A girl disrespects you (completely ignores you for a week)

and then a few weeks later acts like nothing wrong ever happened (re-establishes contact "Hey! I missed you how;ve you been!" kinda stuff)

How are youu supposed to respond
You don't respond.

She has no real interest in you, but is just short some attention and/or validation and is looking to fill the void. Don't worry, when the next shiny object catches her eye, she'll drop you like a rock once again. Repeat process.

Save yourself the trouble and just avoid girls who go hot/cold. Never once had anything good come from girls like this and wasted far too much of my 20's stressing over them, being led on, and strung along.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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The best way to deal with these girls is to continue NC. If they force themselves upon you at work, just give very blunt answers and comments. Minimize the social interaction and then continue with NC.
 
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