"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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when other guys get in your face

toast

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i go to a small college and i've never really had trouble with this before but there is this one guy who gets really pissed off whenever i talk to a girl he knows. not going out with or anything, just knows her. for example at the bar he was sitting with 2 girls talking with them and i go up to talk to the girls too, because i know them from meeting them previously. he gets extremely offended and literally gets in my face and starts bumping into me wanting to fight me. now i didn't know this kid before this situation, except from a party when he was trying to start a verbal confrontation with me and i just ignored him b/c i didn't know him and just figured he was drunk.

anyway i just ignored him again and talked to the girls and he eventually stopped badgering me. i left to go talk with other people and 15 minutes later he comes up and wants to start it again. he gets more pissed off b/c i won't pay attention to him and about other 4 people got him to go sit down again. he was in my face asking me how fast i could run the mile, and how much i could lift.

fine i thought, maybe i stepped on his toes b/c he was going out with one of the girls. then last night same thing. i was talking to a girl and out of the blue this dood shows up again. now i've never even talked to this guy before so i really don't know what his problem is. and i don't know how to deal with this when i try and talk to girls and i don't know if this guy is going to show up or not.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wubbman

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Just kick his ass and get it over with.
 

justsomeguy1984

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This guy is obviously very insecure and feels threatend by you. Why the hell is he asking you how fast you can run the mile or how much you can lift? He is just making himself look like and idiot when he says something like that and he is definately losing the respect of any women who are around. Just laugh at this guy when he says stupid sh!t and that will just make him getter even madder and look even dumber. Fighting should be considered a last resort, and only if you are 100% confident that you could kick his a$s :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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