"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When meeting girls in Lecture. (College)

Aspiring_DJ

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Hey guys i have a quick question about meeting girls and being a DJ in college. If i meet a girl in a lecture and use DJ techniques on her, how do i maintain the mystery and challenge strategy on her if i see her every class (assuming i sit with her).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Just don't blab on and on about yourself every time you see her. Make the conversations interesting and engaging.

This idea of being "a mystery" is completely over-rated and foolish. It only works on very immature girls. In the long run, you'll come across as creepy by constantly asking her questions about herself. It is transparent to the somewhat socially skilled woman. They see through it sooner or later.

Work on number closing her and seeing her outside of class privately. Forget about these inane "techniques".

It goes something like this:
confidence --> approach --> engage ---> attraction ---> number close
 

Incog

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Don't go to every class.

Missing college classes once in a while does no harm if you know when to miss them (not test days, etc.)
 

Aspiring_DJ

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so your saying i should mess up my education for a girl? I thought don juans weren't supposed to care whether or not the girl wanted them.
 

The Master Disaster

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Just get her to meet you outside of class (ex. parties, study sessions, date...)

Once you get her to meet you outside of class, the deed is done and she is yours for the taking.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Incog

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Aspiring_DJ said:
so your saying i should mess up my education for a girl? I thought don juans weren't supposed to care whether or not the girl wanted them.
I'm not saying miss class to sit at home.

Pursue other things. You're supposed to be a busy guy.
 
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