When is moving in together acceptable?

[Dust 2 Dust]

Never.

After my last girlfriend moved out 3 years ago I swore I would never live with another woman. Nothing beats living alone and being the king of your own castle. I like my home to be a place of dark and quiet. After she left I threw out all her stupid decorations and plants. I painted the walls grey. This isn't possible with an insufferable nag waiting for you at home every time you leave your socks on the floor or God forbid leave the toilet seat up.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

And also your sex life will become non-existant as well.

 

[penkitten]

I think that it is important to find out if you like living with someone before you get married. Can you handle all the quirky things the other person does? Those things aren't apparent at first. A couple lives together and gradually each individual becomes comfortable enough to act more like their true self rather than their own best salesman.
Does she leave dishes in the sink over night?
Does he throw his clothes all over the floor?
Does she ever take the trash out?
Does she poop with the door open?
Does he brush his teeth twice a day?
Does she get stressed out and act like a lunatic?

Those things sound silly.

But there are so many things you just don't know about someone unless you live with them.

 

[Tenacity]

Now I'm not in an LTR and nowhere near moving in with a woman at this point in my life but I'm curious about the topic.

The general consensus of the forum, I've gathered, is that when you move in with an LTR, eventually things will go to shyt and she will take you for granted and take advantage of living with you.

It's inevitably doomed to fail. That's the vibe I get from everyone's viewpoint here when this topic has arisen.

So what's the deal with this because obviously if you're in an LTR for a long enough period of time and things are going well the next "step" would be moving in together no?

Is it only acceptable when married?

Basically is it EVER a good idea?

Enlighten me.

If it's a chick you are about to get married to (which I have no idea why you would want to do that). If it's not, then you are just setting yourself up for legal problems with a chick that's not even technically your wife. For example, you can't just KICK someone out in most states.

Plus with the palimony going around, in some states, if you stay together long enough they consider you married even if you aren't. Which means "kicking her out" could put you liable for palimony.

 

[Desdinova]

It's acceptable when she's willing to do anything for you. As for timing, I can't even answer that. My GF moved in with me without even really having the discussion. She just kinda did it. Nothing's really changed either. She still cooks, still fvcks, still buys me things, etc. I'm pretty sure she knows I'll kick her out if she becomes a pain in my ass.

 

[RangerMIke]

Never move in with a chick EVER. It is NEVER okay.

 

[Von]

Gotta say i know 2-3 couples in their 50s who's been in a 10years+ LTR without EVER moving together

They do sleep at each other and travel together.

But each their own house

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You move in after marriage.

Whose place do you move to? Who makes the rules and processes? What if you find you can't live in the same space cause the other party doesn't help out?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

That is a terrible decision.

You're going to marry a person without even knowing if you enjoy living with them????

Same way I think. Knowing whether you can live with her or not is crucial if your going to be married. What I f you find she prefers to have her own bed in another room?

 

[Dash Riprock]

And also your sex life will become non-existant as well.

Obviously there were flags before moving in you didn't see or didn't pay attention to.