When girls start disqualifying themselves…

[SargeMaximus]

So had this happen a few times recently. Girls start getting down on themselves about their looks or saying they are too old for me or whatnot. I assume it’s a bait to see if I compliment them but on the other hand it also feels like they are trying to get out of things.

Seems like a no win situation. Either you “reassure them” and come off as beta or desperate, or you don’t and lose them anyways. Any solution here or is it a lost cause once a girl starts doing this?

 

[Willie Naylor]

Let her go. Let her go. If the h0e wanna h0e, n*gga, let her go.

Seriously, there's nothing wrong with coming across as 'Beta' with a girl every now and again.

 

[Stuffnu]

Validation, ego shiate test or insecurity, the reaction should be the same:
Ignore and change the subject.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

They're prob not worth continuing to pursue at this point. The only advice I can give is you can avoid this by building a little more comfort, not sure if that's your style though lol. Most girls don't mind a little beta mixed in with the alpha.

p.s. you can try a quick salvaging by saying you have a thing for her particular attributes or that you're attracted to older women, and then try sexualizing the convo. If they display any more insecurity I'd cut bait.

 

[SargeMaximus]

They're not worth continuing to pursue at this point. The only advice I can give is you can avoid this by building a little more comfort, not sure if that's your style though lol.

Why do you say that? What happens with the girl when she goes down this road?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Why do you say that? What happens with the girl when she goes down this road?

It depends. When she starts displaying signs of insecurity it's either a comfort sh1t-test or there's deeper issues. Try a quick reassurance (beta once in a while is ok), but if they continue with the insecurity it's time to cut bait.

 

[SargeMaximus]

It depends. When she starts displaying signs of insecurity it's either a comfort sh1t-test or there's deeper issues. Try a quick reassurance (beta once in a while is ok), but if they continue with the insecurity it's time to cut bait.

Ok thank you

 

[SargeMaximus]

It depends. When she starts displaying signs of insecurity it's either a comfort sh1t-test or there's deeper issues. Try a quick reassurance (beta once in a while is ok), but if they continue with the insecurity it's time to cut bait.

Oh btw, how do you reassure a girl without getting too beta?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Oh btw, how do you reassure a girl without getting too beta?

"You're not that ugly"

Give them a neg like that

 

[mrgoodstuff]

"You're not that ugly"

Give them a neg like that

Only your attitude is ugly...

 

[GioWolf]

Oh btw, how do you reassure a girl without getting too beta?

Reassure her by initiating sex. That will let her know you are both attracted to her and dominate.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Let them demonstrate, not explicate. I've had two girlfriends in the last five years. Both of them demonstrated behaviours to disqualify themselves. They will all always talk a lot, but it's really their behaviour that counts most.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"if you are that insecure about yourself then you are probably right, things won't work out between us"

 

[darksprezzatura]

So had this happen a few times recently. Girls start getting down on themselves about their looks or saying they are too old for me or whatnot. I assume it’s a bait to see if I compliment them but on the other hand it also feels like they are trying to get out of things.

Seems like a no win situation. Either you “reassure them” and come off as beta or desperate, or you don’t and lose them anyways. Any solution here or is it a lost cause once a girl starts doing this?

Be playful and say
"You aren't THAT fat."

 

[SargeMaximus]

Good suggestions here, thanks guys

 

[2Rocky]

"Oh come on, you are not nearly my personal worst.... Besides I'm not THAT desperate. " Agree and amplify. Then tell her "I decide what my standards are. I'll let you know when you are not achieving up to the performance standards . The next performance review isn't for a couple weeks yet..."

 

[Modern Man Advice]

So had this happen a few times recently. Girls start getting down on themselves about their looks or saying they are too old for me or whatnot. I assume it’s a bait to see if I compliment them but on the other hand it also feels like they are trying to get out of things.

Seems like a no win situation. Either you “reassure them” and come off as beta or desperate, or you don’t and lose them anyways. Any solution here or is it a lost cause once a girl starts doing this?

I mean, I think you hit the nail on the head. This is simply a no-win situation.

For one, this girl has personal issues that need to be addressed on her own. If sex is all you want, carry on as this is irrelevant and if anything might help you. If you want to date her, she simply is not ready to be with someone. She has work to do. You, as a man, deserve better than that. Much better but it's up to you to set those standards for yourself.

Second, if she is playing games and trying to fish for compliments that is highly unattractive in my books. I would be turned off and would see it as she is wasting my time. No one has time for mind games.


Modern Man Advice

 

[DisposableBenchmark]

Always deal with those situations with a backhanded compliment. Something that on the surface is positive but has lingering negative afters that will keep her mind racing.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Always deal with those situations with a backhanded compliment. Something that on the surface is positive but has lingering negative afters that will keep her mind racing.

I’m not good with doing those. Any tips?

 

[DisposableBenchmark]

I’m not good with doing those. Any tips?

Dunno, just be petty. A year ago I must have said something about this girl's ears. I don't remember saying it. But it would have been a comment to her about a photo of hers (positive) but mentioned something about her ears. Not sure what I said because it was ages ago. But the point is, she remembered it and brought it up last week lol.

Little comments like that keep their minds racing. Even for years.