"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When girls compliment you?

loving

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I haven't found a response when they compliment you yet that I feel okay with.

"Thanks" is usually interrupted by realizing hey they dont usually do that, they seem to have some kind of interest. Maybe the key is not thinking about it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Compliments from a woman let her know your level of self esteem. So your reaction helps them gauge you.
When you're TOO self effacing, they lose interest.
Simply say "Thank you, thats very kind of you." with a smile.
Thats enough.
 

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Yes indeed.

With that simple response you acknowledge that you know why she complemented you. If she says "You got beautiful eyes" and you say "thank you, you're really saying "Yes I know, thanks for telling me that". It shows you are confident enough about yourself to agree with it. Chicks like that. Don't get ****y though.
 

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I get complimented on a regular basis, especialy by older women because nothing's going to happen between us & is completly safe in that respect???

I just laugh, thats it, or laugh & say thanks, but that's not a technic, it's just my general reaction, it conveys, "yea, thanks for spotting out the obvious", it confuses the f@#k ot of them, but really it amuses me because it's comes out of the blue & is totally unexpected.
 

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Eye her off and say,

What do you want from me???

either that or just a simple thankyou and smile.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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good topic since i was a kid ive always wondered what to say when i get compliments from girls back then i'd be to shy to say anything nowadays i either laugh it out or say "thanks" or anything else i could say to acknowledge what they're sayin is true but not sound ****y which is sometimes quite hard but i just cant help blushing which i think makes me come across as shy
 

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snowdog said:
Yes indeed.

With that simple response you acknowledge that you know why she complemented you.
LOL...first time I read this I thought that your response was "Yes indeed."

"You have nice eyes."
"Yes indeed!"

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But seriously I would say, "Thank you! What's your name?"

And then go full steam ahead because you know she likes you.
 

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"thanks" thats all you need. don't be some ****y arsehole. Interceptor nailed it.

The same works for females...if you give a woman a compliment and she starts putting herslef down.... take a closer look at her.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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loving said:
I haven't found a response when they compliment you yet that I feel okay with.

"Thanks" is usually interrupted by realizing hey they dont usually do that, they seem to have some kind of interest. Maybe the key is not thinking about it?
Thank you is the only thing a compliment person would say.

At 2:30 AM this morning I kclosed a girl in the parking lot after walking her to her car. The first thing she said was "You're cute." My response - "Thank you." With a smile of course.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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By default, the best reply is always the shortest : "thank you"

why so complicated ?
 
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