"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When girls compliment you?

loving

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I haven't found a response when they compliment you yet that I feel okay with.

"Thanks" is usually interrupted by realizing hey they dont usually do that, they seem to have some kind of interest. Maybe the key is not thinking about it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Compliments from a woman let her know your level of self esteem. So your reaction helps them gauge you.
When you're TOO self effacing, they lose interest.
Simply say "Thank you, thats very kind of you." with a smile.
Thats enough.
 

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Yes indeed.

With that simple response you acknowledge that you know why she complemented you. If she says "You got beautiful eyes" and you say "thank you, you're really saying "Yes I know, thanks for telling me that". It shows you are confident enough about yourself to agree with it. Chicks like that. Don't get ****y though.
 

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I get complimented on a regular basis, especialy by older women because nothing's going to happen between us & is completly safe in that respect???

I just laugh, thats it, or laugh & say thanks, but that's not a technic, it's just my general reaction, it conveys, "yea, thanks for spotting out the obvious", it confuses the f@#k ot of them, but really it amuses me because it's comes out of the blue & is totally unexpected.
 

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Eye her off and say,

What do you want from me???

either that or just a simple thankyou and smile.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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good topic since i was a kid ive always wondered what to say when i get compliments from girls back then i'd be to shy to say anything nowadays i either laugh it out or say "thanks" or anything else i could say to acknowledge what they're sayin is true but not sound ****y which is sometimes quite hard but i just cant help blushing which i think makes me come across as shy
 

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snowdog said:
Yes indeed.

With that simple response you acknowledge that you know why she complemented you.
LOL...first time I read this I thought that your response was "Yes indeed."

"You have nice eyes."
"Yes indeed!"

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But seriously I would say, "Thank you! What's your name?"

And then go full steam ahead because you know she likes you.
 

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"thanks" thats all you need. don't be some ****y arsehole. Interceptor nailed it.

The same works for females...if you give a woman a compliment and she starts putting herslef down.... take a closer look at her.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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loving said:
I haven't found a response when they compliment you yet that I feel okay with.

"Thanks" is usually interrupted by realizing hey they dont usually do that, they seem to have some kind of interest. Maybe the key is not thinking about it?
Thank you is the only thing a compliment person would say.

At 2:30 AM this morning I kclosed a girl in the parking lot after walking her to her car. The first thing she said was "You're cute." My response - "Thank you." With a smile of course.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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By default, the best reply is always the shortest : "thank you"

why so complicated ?
 
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