"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
when does a girl become a waste of time?
- Thread starter Double J
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
xhikari
Don Juan
Dukester
Master Don Juan
my g/f was being all standoffish, and stressed out, etc.. so i decided that she wasnt worth the trouble. havent talked to her in 2 weeks, i need to tell it to her soon.
other symptoms:
when she treats you like ****
when she's not putting out
when she is NOT GIVING YOU WHAT YOU WANT
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2002
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- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
Here comes the Cluemobile! WOOOOOOOO WOOOOOOOOO! We can't tell you when a girl is wasting your time! Only you will know that! That's like coming here and asking, "Do I like girls who wear glasses? Do I like my girlfriend's new honey-melon shampoo?"
Soma
Banned
DeathDealer
Master Don Juan
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A girl is wasting my time if she uses the words "Let's just be friends"
A girl is wasting my time if she keeps canceling or changing my date times/events.
Since I'm the nice type that gives second chances, I usually do give a second chance in a very short time and I want her to be better next time. If everything repeats again, I just cut her off.
Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
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- Jul 23, 2004
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.