"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
when does a girl become a waste of time?
- Thread starter Double J
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
xhikari
Don Juan
Dukester
Master Don Juan
my g/f was being all standoffish, and stressed out, etc.. so i decided that she wasnt worth the trouble. havent talked to her in 2 weeks, i need to tell it to her soon.
other symptoms:
when she treats you like ****
when she's not putting out
when she is NOT GIVING YOU WHAT YOU WANT
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
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Here comes the Cluemobile! WOOOOOOOO WOOOOOOOOO! We can't tell you when a girl is wasting your time! Only you will know that! That's like coming here and asking, "Do I like girls who wear glasses? Do I like my girlfriend's new honey-melon shampoo?"
Soma
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DeathDealer
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A girl is wasting my time if she uses the words "Let's just be friends"
A girl is wasting my time if she keeps canceling or changing my date times/events.
Since I'm the nice type that gives second chances, I usually do give a second chance in a very short time and I want her to be better next time. If everything repeats again, I just cut her off.
Blue Phoenix
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.