When do you know if you are just "settling" for the best. Say you think a girl is a 6.5 or 7. If you bone her are you doing yourself a disservice? I am at the point where I can sleep with 7's, but they're not as fulfilling as 8s and 9s.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When do you know if you are just settling?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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This is kinda going into the foundations of game here.
You don't want to commit to a girl that doesnt totally do it for you. Just commit enough to keep her around.
You must keep hanging with other female friends and since you are not committed you don't have to lie about having a girlfriend. Yet you are still in a good place to meet other girls.
If something better comes along upgrade.
If nothing better comes along keep bangin the 7. Maybe she will see you are not committed, have game and will increase her value to you by doing cool stuff.
Let me tell you a 7 with absolutely no sexual inhibitions with a nice rack or booty is a keeper in my book!
You don't want to commit to a girl that doesnt totally do it for you. Just commit enough to keep her around.
You must keep hanging with other female friends and since you are not committed you don't have to lie about having a girlfriend. Yet you are still in a good place to meet other girls.
If something better comes along upgrade.
If nothing better comes along keep bangin the 7. Maybe she will see you are not committed, have game and will increase her value to you by doing cool stuff.
Let me tell you a 7 with absolutely no sexual inhibitions with a nice rack or booty is a keeper in my book!
I am never satisfied with a 6-7. I will always think I can do better. Funny thing is after I break it off if I don't already have something better lined up I go through a phase of doubting if I actually can get better.