"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When do you decide to lose her number?

tomwesten27

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2 Strike Rule? 3 Strike Rule? I try not to allow myself to ask a girl out more then twice. Is that a good rule of thumb? 3 seems to desperate.

When you ask a new girl out on a specific day and she comes back with she has plans or is busy, and does not give you a counter offer. Does it scream desperate throwing another day at her? Meaning if she is busy Tuesday, can I say "Ok how about Thursday?" Or whats a good way to play it?

At 22 years old I SUCK at texting. I hate texting. I want to just meet face to face but my track record is I always seem to over text and come off needy and desperate.

What are some good rules with this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Greasy Pig

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Initially, you should ask her what days she's available.
If she gives you excuses with no counter, leave it a week and try again.
If the same happens, ditch the number.
 

sylvester the cat

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the moment you find yourself asking when you should lose her number is probably a good time to lose her number.
 

MtnMan

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sylvester the cat said:
the moment you find yourself asking when you should lose her number is probably a good time to lose her number.
I second this!
An interested girl won't really confuse you, or make you wonder if you should delete her number.
 

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I give women ONE chance with me.

If she flakes or pulls some excuse, she is deleted from every platform I have her on. Kicked to the curb. Why waste time on a woman with low to no interest?

Besides, when a woman flakes or blurs on you, she lost your number and rejected you first.

Case closed.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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VladPatton

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Yep, ask twice, and if nothing happens it's el deleto. As for texting, just keep a scope in mind. Text for a purpose and not for fluff. If she initiates fluff texts, ok, reply whenever, otherwise just text to see when she can come out and play.
 
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