"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When do you call out a woman on her bs?

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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VladPatton

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You just don't play along. Walking away is your greatest weapon.
 

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Op,


Here is a list of offenses and punishments between my wife and I:

raised her voice to me - warning

Refused sex due to not horny - 5 min cold shower, spanking with belt followed by sex

Almost made me late for work due to procrastination making breakfast - warning

Didn't support my decision in public - firm slap across the face, spanking, apology

Texting while I'm talking - spanking, apology

Telling me no when my decision doesn't hurt her or degrade her - spanking until she cries

Rolling eyes - firm slap in the face


She appears to be very much in love still and hasn't crossed any boundaries in a few weeks.
easy there mate, you could get in legal trouble in the future If things go bad. You have to be more careful about what you post in the internet.
He's right. Recently, one of my friends spanked his wife while shopping in the mall, and a bystander who saw it called cops and the cops charged my friend with two crimes, one is battery, and the other I don't recall. My friend had to go to court and shell out 10 grand to a lawyer to free him of the two charges. My friend's wife testified in his favor though. Physical contact/harm to another person, even if it is your wife, could get people into trouble. Never do that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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parkthebus

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To be honest this sort of discipline comes across as something to boost attraction. My understanding is that the woman wilfully submits to these punishments and no woman does something that she doesn't want to do unless she has to. Thus, the woman wants to do it and must enjoy it. Plus, the male is likely to get all kinds of psychological boosts from having this dominance over someone. In fact, being dominant over someone and having someone be submissive towards you stimulates seretonin production. You'd also likely get a testosterone boost and many more effects that I don't know about.

So in summary, the motivation behind this sort of physical discipline is likely due to pleasure for both parties rather than wanting to create a social structure that keeps your relationship strong.
 

CuddleJunkie

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To be honest this sort of discipline comes across as something to boost attraction. My understanding is that the woman wilfully submits to these punishments and no woman does something that she doesn't want to do unless she has to. Thus, the woman wants to do it and must enjoy it. Plus, the male is likely to get all kinds of psychological boosts from having this dominance over someone. In fact, being dominant over someone and having someone be submissive towards you stimulates seretonin production. You'd also likely get a testosterone boost and many more effects that I don't know about.

So in summary, the motivation behind this sort of physical discipline is likely due to pleasure for both parties rather than wanting to create a social structure that keeps your relationship strong.
I agree completly, and I'd add that it also creates that social structure. The point beforeimgone should understand is that these practices are not something to make public nowadays, for legal reasons. It does not matter if you are right or not, you should save your ass before all else.
 

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A man's relationship with a woman should be a series of him rewarding her for good behavior. The good behavior predicates every reward. When the good behavior stops, the rewards stop and the relationship is over.
 
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