Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When do you call out a woman on her bs?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton

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You just don't play along. Walking away is your greatest weapon.
 

Vivacity

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Op,


Here is a list of offenses and punishments between my wife and I:

raised her voice to me - warning

Refused sex due to not horny - 5 min cold shower, spanking with belt followed by sex

Almost made me late for work due to procrastination making breakfast - warning

Didn't support my decision in public - firm slap across the face, spanking, apology

Texting while I'm talking - spanking, apology

Telling me no when my decision doesn't hurt her or degrade her - spanking until she cries

Rolling eyes - firm slap in the face


She appears to be very much in love still and hasn't crossed any boundaries in a few weeks.
easy there mate, you could get in legal trouble in the future If things go bad. You have to be more careful about what you post in the internet.
He's right. Recently, one of my friends spanked his wife while shopping in the mall, and a bystander who saw it called cops and the cops charged my friend with two crimes, one is battery, and the other I don't recall. My friend had to go to court and shell out 10 grand to a lawyer to free him of the two charges. My friend's wife testified in his favor though. Physical contact/harm to another person, even if it is your wife, could get people into trouble. Never do that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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parkthebus

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To be honest this sort of discipline comes across as something to boost attraction. My understanding is that the woman wilfully submits to these punishments and no woman does something that she doesn't want to do unless she has to. Thus, the woman wants to do it and must enjoy it. Plus, the male is likely to get all kinds of psychological boosts from having this dominance over someone. In fact, being dominant over someone and having someone be submissive towards you stimulates seretonin production. You'd also likely get a testosterone boost and many more effects that I don't know about.

So in summary, the motivation behind this sort of physical discipline is likely due to pleasure for both parties rather than wanting to create a social structure that keeps your relationship strong.
 

CuddleJunkie

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To be honest this sort of discipline comes across as something to boost attraction. My understanding is that the woman wilfully submits to these punishments and no woman does something that she doesn't want to do unless she has to. Thus, the woman wants to do it and must enjoy it. Plus, the male is likely to get all kinds of psychological boosts from having this dominance over someone. In fact, being dominant over someone and having someone be submissive towards you stimulates seretonin production. You'd also likely get a testosterone boost and many more effects that I don't know about.

So in summary, the motivation behind this sort of physical discipline is likely due to pleasure for both parties rather than wanting to create a social structure that keeps your relationship strong.
I agree completly, and I'd add that it also creates that social structure. The point beforeimgone should understand is that these practices are not something to make public nowadays, for legal reasons. It does not matter if you are right or not, you should save your ass before all else.
 

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A man's relationship with a woman should be a series of him rewarding her for good behavior. The good behavior predicates every reward. When the good behavior stops, the rewards stop and the relationship is over.
 
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