Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When do you call out a woman on her bs?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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VladPatton

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You just don't play along. Walking away is your greatest weapon.
 

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Op,


Here is a list of offenses and punishments between my wife and I:

raised her voice to me - warning

Refused sex due to not horny - 5 min cold shower, spanking with belt followed by sex

Almost made me late for work due to procrastination making breakfast - warning

Didn't support my decision in public - firm slap across the face, spanking, apology

Texting while I'm talking - spanking, apology

Telling me no when my decision doesn't hurt her or degrade her - spanking until she cries

Rolling eyes - firm slap in the face


She appears to be very much in love still and hasn't crossed any boundaries in a few weeks.
easy there mate, you could get in legal trouble in the future If things go bad. You have to be more careful about what you post in the internet.
He's right. Recently, one of my friends spanked his wife while shopping in the mall, and a bystander who saw it called cops and the cops charged my friend with two crimes, one is battery, and the other I don't recall. My friend had to go to court and shell out 10 grand to a lawyer to free him of the two charges. My friend's wife testified in his favor though. Physical contact/harm to another person, even if it is your wife, could get people into trouble. Never do that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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parkthebus

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To be honest this sort of discipline comes across as something to boost attraction. My understanding is that the woman wilfully submits to these punishments and no woman does something that she doesn't want to do unless she has to. Thus, the woman wants to do it and must enjoy it. Plus, the male is likely to get all kinds of psychological boosts from having this dominance over someone. In fact, being dominant over someone and having someone be submissive towards you stimulates seretonin production. You'd also likely get a testosterone boost and many more effects that I don't know about.

So in summary, the motivation behind this sort of physical discipline is likely due to pleasure for both parties rather than wanting to create a social structure that keeps your relationship strong.
 

CuddleJunkie

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To be honest this sort of discipline comes across as something to boost attraction. My understanding is that the woman wilfully submits to these punishments and no woman does something that she doesn't want to do unless she has to. Thus, the woman wants to do it and must enjoy it. Plus, the male is likely to get all kinds of psychological boosts from having this dominance over someone. In fact, being dominant over someone and having someone be submissive towards you stimulates seretonin production. You'd also likely get a testosterone boost and many more effects that I don't know about.

So in summary, the motivation behind this sort of physical discipline is likely due to pleasure for both parties rather than wanting to create a social structure that keeps your relationship strong.
I agree completly, and I'd add that it also creates that social structure. The point beforeimgone should understand is that these practices are not something to make public nowadays, for legal reasons. It does not matter if you are right or not, you should save your ass before all else.
 

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A man's relationship with a woman should be a series of him rewarding her for good behavior. The good behavior predicates every reward. When the good behavior stops, the rewards stop and the relationship is over.
 
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