"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when do i text? what should i say? pls help

sargent158

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Hello my good friends from so suave, I hope everyone is doing great! Alright so here's my problem:

I met this girl at work and she seemed to like me but I didn't really pay attention to her, for whatever gay reason, before she left work she will always stand next to me and stay a few minutes later just to talk to me, but I still didn't notice, I will send her little text here there nothing to serious, and just last night she texted me saying she just got home, I was like damn you should of called so we could of hanged out, and she was like come visit me, so I'm like hell yes!, so I go we chill in my car and the whole time I'm flirting with her dying to kiss her, but I controlled my self cuz I didn't want to rush in to anything and get played, so after we talked I notice she was getting sleepy so I offered to take her home and I did, when I went to go give her a hug she went and started making out with me, so it worked out great but now I don't know when to text her since I hardly ever did before and I don't want to look desperate, and if I did what would be a good way to start a convo after this. I kno this is dumb but I don't want to look dumb pls help
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"had a wonderful time with you :) "


simple, don't complicate sh1t like the nerds on here. Good job btw.
 
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be chill... continue living your life . I usually don't text back , I wait then I get a txt like 2 days later...
let them chase you ..
but in this case , I think what wolf replied is definitely true ... but here is my twist on the lines : next time you and the girl hug. whisper into her ear "last night was fun... we should do it again sometime"...

, I think once u start getting the hang of things you will develop your own style ...

and add your own twists...

good job on making out with the girl ....

I liked the whole I am tired let me take u home part ... good move
 

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Texting is totally subjective i've found...

A lot of the really clever texts generate responses with some women while others interpret them wrong and scare them off.

One girl I texted "Roses are blue, violets are red, I suck at poems, But I'm great in bed' and she loved it... Another I sent something similar and she ignored it and stopped texting me..

I've found texting to be a weak form of banter because it can easily be ignored or misinterpreted, unlike a phonecall or meeting in person.

I recommend texting to be kept short, sincere and also used for setting up dates and confirming plans. Don't try to make too much of a game out of it unless you want to waste a lot of time. my 2-cents.
 

BeyondCharm

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i just call them whenever I feel like "responding to their texts" unless its something urgent or its related to our date plans.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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