"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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when do i text? what should i say? pls help

sargent158

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Hello my good friends from so suave, I hope everyone is doing great! Alright so here's my problem:

I met this girl at work and she seemed to like me but I didn't really pay attention to her, for whatever gay reason, before she left work she will always stand next to me and stay a few minutes later just to talk to me, but I still didn't notice, I will send her little text here there nothing to serious, and just last night she texted me saying she just got home, I was like damn you should of called so we could of hanged out, and she was like come visit me, so I'm like hell yes!, so I go we chill in my car and the whole time I'm flirting with her dying to kiss her, but I controlled my self cuz I didn't want to rush in to anything and get played, so after we talked I notice she was getting sleepy so I offered to take her home and I did, when I went to go give her a hug she went and started making out with me, so it worked out great but now I don't know when to text her since I hardly ever did before and I don't want to look desperate, and if I did what would be a good way to start a convo after this. I kno this is dumb but I don't want to look dumb pls help
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"had a wonderful time with you :) "


simple, don't complicate sh1t like the nerds on here. Good job btw.
 
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be chill... continue living your life . I usually don't text back , I wait then I get a txt like 2 days later...
let them chase you ..
but in this case , I think what wolf replied is definitely true ... but here is my twist on the lines : next time you and the girl hug. whisper into her ear "last night was fun... we should do it again sometime"...

, I think once u start getting the hang of things you will develop your own style ...

and add your own twists...

good job on making out with the girl ....

I liked the whole I am tired let me take u home part ... good move
 

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Texting is totally subjective i've found...

A lot of the really clever texts generate responses with some women while others interpret them wrong and scare them off.

One girl I texted "Roses are blue, violets are red, I suck at poems, But I'm great in bed' and she loved it... Another I sent something similar and she ignored it and stopped texting me..

I've found texting to be a weak form of banter because it can easily be ignored or misinterpreted, unlike a phonecall or meeting in person.

I recommend texting to be kept short, sincere and also used for setting up dates and confirming plans. Don't try to make too much of a game out of it unless you want to waste a lot of time. my 2-cents.
 

BeyondCharm

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i just call them whenever I feel like "responding to their texts" unless its something urgent or its related to our date plans.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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