"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When CAF Doesnt Work

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What to do when CAF doesn’t work? My last date was a HB7, pretty, smart. I used CAF at her, but she was always quiet and kind, I feel that I couldn’t get any result doing that. I think I shouldn’t call her because she won’t go out with me again. I would like to hear your opinions and advices, my friends.
Giovanni
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe, you did too much.
 
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bro sometimes this don juan stuff just does not work on certain girls.. and trust me.. those are the chickas that u DO NOT wanna be with.. so be glad that u can cross that girl off ur list. good luck bro
 
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C+F should be used on bitc-hy hot girls..doing it on nice cute or insecure girls will only make them think you're an as5hole and not like you
 
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Tear Gas said:
C+F should be used on bitc-hy hot girls..doing it on nice cute or insecure girls will only make them think you're an as5hole and not like you
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I think you're confusing c/f with negging.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Every girl is a different lock, the basics may remain the same, but the details don't. Don't expect the same thing to work all the time.

DJ tactics are more like guidelines, ****y and funny all the time can make you look like an ass-hole.
 
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Brians_600rr said:
bro sometimes this don juan stuff just does not work on certain girls.. and trust me.. those are the chickas that u DO NOT wanna be with.. so be glad that u can cross that girl off ur list. good luck bro
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This works on all girls... old girls, young girls, skinny girls, fat girls, rich girls, poor girls, and just plain dirty slvts.

It's how you use your game!
 
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giovannikast said:
Hi
My friends,
What to do when CAF doesn’t work? My last date was a HB7, pretty, smart. I used CAF at her, but she was always quiet and kind, I feel that I couldn’t get any result doing that. I think I shouldn’t call her because she won’t go out with me again.
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Change tactics then. If she likes quiet guys who don't touch her, then that's what you have to do. You have to adapt to your environment like a animal in the wild.

Reminds me of a college class when the student said to the prof: I like to use all the numbers you give me in the question, even if they are irrelevant.
 
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Why should we have to adapt to a girl? If she doesn't fit our personality we just change for her instead of acting the way we really are? That doesn't make since. If you aren't quiet then don't adapt to a girl that doesn't like guys who aren't quiet. That's what seems to make since to me right now.
 
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JMooney5115 said:
Why should we have to adapt to a girl? If she doesn't fit our personality we just change for her instead of acting the way we really are? That doesn't make since. If you aren't quiet then don't adapt to a girl that doesn't like guys who aren't quiet. That's what seems to make since to me right now.
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It's the difference between being the qualifier or being the one being qualified.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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JMooney5115 said:
Why should we have to adapt to a girl? If she doesn't fit our personality we just change for her instead of acting the way we really are?
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You have to pay attention to what she likes, what she identifies with. Otherwise its a recipe for disaster.
 
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