When at her place

[jaymbrs]

I was recently at this girls place hanging out having a few drinks with her and her female roommate while watching YouTube vids. Her and I sat together essentially cuddling and her roommate was by herself on another couch. We’re all getting tipsy and I suddenly realize it’s 2am. I get a sense of urgency because nothings escalated with this girl and I feel there’s nothing I can really do since 1. It’s not my place and 2. Her roommate is there. Me and this girl have not slept together before and I haven’t hung out with her that long.

I chalked it up to nothing was going to happen since she started dozing off. So I just left. I wasn’t there to cuddle all night.

I feel her roommate should’ve gone to her room to give us some privacy. I honestly don’t know what I could’ve said or done to suggest we go into her room to ****. Any suggestions?

 

[marmel75]

What you fail to realize was that her roommate was there so you COULDNT escalate because she DIDN'T WANT YOU TO.

Trust me...if she was interested in that happening she would have made sure her roommate was gone.

This wasnt a failure on your part it was low interest in hers. At least from a sexual point of view.

 

[jaymbrs]

You both are probably right. Not sure why she insisted to go back to her place after a night out. Or got real touchy with me. Maybe she’s just getting comfortable with me. I dont know.

 

[Billtx49]

It’s just an isolation failure. Take her to an environment where you know it will be done. The ball was on her side of the net at her place.

 

[lizardking82]

I am with @billtx49 here for sure. Do not judge the situation based on this unclear case. Take it alone and take it from there.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Marmel called it. She didnt want to have sex.

I like to think when things like this happen, the girl had a good reason, but she was just too embarrassed to tell you. Maybe she was on her period, maybe she had the sh!ts, maybe that last herpes outbreak hadnt quite cleared up get. That's why i am never pushy with women. There might be a really good reason she doesnt want to have sex, you never know. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.

 

[jaymbrs]

Marmel called it. She didnt want to have sex.

I like to think when things like this happen, the girl had a good reason, but she was just too embarrassed to tell you. Maybe she was on her period, maybe she had the sh!ts, maybe that last herpes outbreak hadnt quite cleared up get. That's why i am never pushy with women. There might be a really good reason she doesnt want to have sex, you never know. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.

This made me chuckle because it’s prob more truer than one wants to admit.

 

[Dingo]

You ****ed up.... She wanted a threesome....

 

[Roober]

I was recently at this girls place hanging out having a few drinks with her and her female roommate while watching YouTube vids. Her and I sat together essentially cuddling and her roommate was by herself on another couch. We’re all getting tipsy and I suddenly realize it’s 2am.

Should have isolated her. What the fvck are you doing watching youtube vids? I am sorry, but that just sounds so ridiculous. Cuddling on the couch?

I get a sense of urgency because nothings escalated with this girl and I feel there’s nothing I can really do since 1. It’s not my place and 2. Her roommate is there. Me and this girl have not slept together before and I haven’t hung out with her that long.

Urgency? No need for that? 2am is still early. Why would being at her place stymy your testosterone? Why would the friend stymy your testosterone? I would go for the kill and make the friend so uncomfortable, she would want to leave.

chalked it up to nothing was going to happen since she started dozing off. So I just left. I wasn’t there to cuddle all night.

I feel her roommate should’ve gone to her room to give us some privacy. I honestly don’t know what I could’ve said or done to suggest we go into her room to ****. Any suggestions?

You didn't get laid because you didn't lead, AND sitting around watching youtube videos? Who does that? lol

 

[jaymbrs]

Should have isolated her. What the fvck are you doing watching youtube vids? I am sorry, but that just sounds so ridiculous. Cuddling on the couch?



Urgency? No need for that? 2am is still early. Why would being at her place stymy your testosterone? Why would the friend stymy your testosterone? I would go for the kill and make the friend so uncomfortable, she would want to leave.



You didn't get laid because you didn't lead, AND sitting around watching youtube videos? Who does that? lol

I’ll admit it was pretty lame but we were tipsy so it didn’t seem so bad at the time. I also didn’t lead because I’m not an ******* and actually have respect for someone’s place. Pretty sure you wouldn’t like it if someone made you uncomfortable in your own home.

 

[sosousage]

I was recently at this girls place hanging out having a few drinks with her and her female roommate while watching YouTube vids. Her and I sat together essentially cuddling and her roommate was by herself on another couch. We’re all getting tipsy and I suddenly realize it’s 2am. I get a sense of urgency because nothings escalated with this girl and I feel there’s nothing I can really do since 1. It’s not my place and 2. Her roommate is there. Me and this girl have not slept together before and I haven’t hung out with her that long.

I chalked it up to nothing was going to happen since she started dozing off. So I just left. I wasn’t there to cuddle all night.

I feel her roommate should’ve gone to her room to give us some privacy. I honestly don’t know what I could’ve said or done to suggest we go into her room to ****. Any suggestions?

how many meetings with her you had? I generally skip a girl if 3 dates and no sechs

 

[jaymbrs]

I'm convinced that most women who invite men back to their place after drinks WANT to feel sexually pursued...even sexually objectified. This will involve a certain level of discomfort, and most of them will LOVE it...simply because they want a man who is ballsy enough to try to fvuck their pants off and fvuck them ASAP. i.e. "sexual tension."

In my opinion a man who accompanies a woman back to her place after drinks yet makes no sexual advancements is much more likely to be abhorred by the woman. Much more so versus the man who tries to fvuck her pants off in front of her friend.

I encourage you to kill the nice guy within and go caveman within 1 hour of them inviting you back to their place.

I don’t disagree with this. However the curveball I was thrown was the roommate “accompanying” us in the living room. I waited and waited for her to call it a night and she never did. It was a 50/50 coin flip that did not go in my favor. I didn’t expect her to stay the entire time. Next time (if there is one) I will definitely not allow that to be an obstacle.

@sosousage it was the 3rd date. But I feel I’m making progress every time so I don’t want to call it quits now. Even though she’s prob familiar with the game and doing this **** on purpose.

 

[jaymbrs]

In my experience 99.9999% of the time when women invite men back to their place after drinking, she is, at the very least, open to having sex. And, at the very least, she knows that the guy is expecting sex.

Not sure why sex never happened. My simple opinion is, you initiated ending the date and left, which I've already advised is not a bad thing.

BUT if/when you meet again, in my opinion, you MUST escalate sexually, lest you risk losing her.

My advice: text her now...just text, "Hi." If she responds then promptly invite her to your place for drinks one night this week. Be specfic with the day and time.

It was my expectation to sleep with her that evening. I asked if she wanted to go to another bar and she suggested buying some alcohol and taking it back to her place. She did warn me her roommate would be there though. I just didn’t think that meant much.

 

[Macaframalama]

I was recently at this girls place hanging out having a few drinks with her and her female roommate while watching YouTube vids. Her and I sat together essentially cuddling and her roommate was by herself on another couch. We’re all getting tipsy and I suddenly realize it’s 2am. I get a sense of urgency because nothings escalated with this girl and I feel there’s nothing I can really do since 1. It’s not my place and 2. Her roommate is there. Me and this girl have not slept together before and I haven’t hung out with her that long.

I chalked it up to nothing was going to happen since she started dozing off. So I just left. I wasn’t there to cuddle all night.

I feel her roommate should’ve gone to her room to give us some privacy. I honestly don’t know what I could’ve said or done to suggest we go into her room to ****. Any suggestions?

Who cares if the roomate is there. Escalate anyways. Worst case scenario you get shut down. Best case scenario you smash her or both.

 

[Billtx49]

She did warn me her roommate would be there though. I just didn’t think that meant much.

See it as an isolation obstacle in any future situations…
It can be overcome, but why bother when you can be alone with her in another location chosen by you beforehand.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I was recently at this girls place hanging out having a few drinks with her and her female roommate while watching YouTube vids. Her and I sat together essentially cuddling and her roommate was by herself on another couch. We’re all getting tipsy and I suddenly realize it’s 2am. I get a sense of urgency because nothings escalated with this girl and I feel there’s nothing I can really do since 1. It’s not my place and 2. Her roommate is there. Me and this girl have not slept together before and I haven’t hung out with her that long.

I chalked it up to nothing was going to happen since she started dozing off. So I just left. I wasn’t there to cuddle all night.

I feel her roommate should’ve gone to her room to give us some privacy. I honestly don’t know what I could’ve said or done to suggest we go into her room to ****. Any suggestions?

Nope. If she has her roommate in there when you come over it means she wanted to set a boundary of NOTHING intimate happening. The only "but" to this is if she wanted a 3-some. Should've made other plans to get her by herself.

 

[Billtx49]

Nope. If she has her roommate in there when you come over it means she wanted to set a boundary of NOTHING intimate happening. The only "but" to this is if she wanted a 3-some. Should've made other plans to get her by herself.

I would have at least given it a shot by saying, This is a nice place you have her, show me your bedroom…

 

[Macaframalama]

Reread and missed the cuddling on the couch bit, so you've escalated and she's putting up a definite boundary. I would still push it, little by little. Make it like foreplay, when the roommate slips off to another room or out of sight. It can be easy to get impatient and just want to smash right away. If it's a chic you really like or really like to smash, employ a little patience and take it back to that teenage experience with your first girlfriend at the movie theater, make it erotic and see if she gets a kick out of it and have fun with being young again. If you're busting nuts on the side, it shouldn't matter and a welcomed challenge, so long as she's letting you escalate a little further and building sexual tension. If she's not, well you're busting nuts on the side.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I would have at least given it a shot by saying, This is a nice place you have her, show me your bedroom…

And then she tries to keep you out in the open with her roommate? Basically a rejection. Maybe before you go over there you can clarify "so were going to watch movies in your room"?

 

[Billtx49]

And then she tries to keep you out in the open with her roommate? Basically a rejection. Maybe before you go over there you can clarify "so were going to watch movies in your room"?

You determine what she’s down for while in the bedroom. Make a move. If she’s not all in, or won’t enter the room to show you the room, then you don’t have to waste your time watching a movie. Have a couple drinks, set another date if you want one, and leave. She can cuddle on the couch with a teddy bear…