Desdinova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2004
- Messages
- 11,681
- Reaction score
- 4,878
There's a lot of people around here who try to determine what a woman's IL is when they're wanting to do a number close. They look for IOIs, try reading her body language, decipering her ********, etc etc.
The only real use for IL is to determine whether you should continue dating a woman or not. Also, a woman's IL should be determined by her actions, not her reactions.
IL should NOT matter when you're going for a number close. Trying to determine this before a number close will prevent you from actually going through with it. IL fluctuates, especially in the early stages of dating, and is a terrible indicator and motivator for doing a number close.
Now, if you notice that she hesitates but gives you her number, do you just toss it away and say "I don't have a chance with her"? NO! You continue with your plan to set up a date with the woman. You invite her out to coffee and get a response. If she agrees, good! If she doesn't agree to your date, try her on another day when she is possibly done her period. If you get a no-go the second round without a counter-offer, then toss her number away. Her lack of action says enough.
If you get a yes to a date, but she cancels at the last minute (or doesn't show up), then you toss her number away. Her action says she's not interested.
Reactions:
- How she interacts with you
- How she responds to a number close
- How she sounds when you put forth a date idea
Actions:
- She doesn't show up for a date
- She flirts with other guys
- She asks for money
- She talks on her cell phone while she's on a date with you
Actions are solid evidence of her interest. Reactions are open to interpretation and differ from woman to woman. Base her IL by her action (or lack of it) to decide if you should continue dating. Other than this, there is no reason to try determining her IL.
The only real use for IL is to determine whether you should continue dating a woman or not. Also, a woman's IL should be determined by her actions, not her reactions.
IL should NOT matter when you're going for a number close. Trying to determine this before a number close will prevent you from actually going through with it. IL fluctuates, especially in the early stages of dating, and is a terrible indicator and motivator for doing a number close.
Now, if you notice that she hesitates but gives you her number, do you just toss it away and say "I don't have a chance with her"? NO! You continue with your plan to set up a date with the woman. You invite her out to coffee and get a response. If she agrees, good! If she doesn't agree to your date, try her on another day when she is possibly done her period. If you get a no-go the second round without a counter-offer, then toss her number away. Her lack of action says enough.
If you get a yes to a date, but she cancels at the last minute (or doesn't show up), then you toss her number away. Her action says she's not interested.
Reactions:
- How she interacts with you
- How she responds to a number close
- How she sounds when you put forth a date idea
Actions:
- She doesn't show up for a date
- She flirts with other guys
- She asks for money
- She talks on her cell phone while she's on a date with you
Actions are solid evidence of her interest. Reactions are open to interpretation and differ from woman to woman. Base her IL by her action (or lack of it) to decide if you should continue dating. Other than this, there is no reason to try determining her IL.