"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When a Woman Tells You You're Handsome, How Do You Interpret It?

Frank2500

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I thought I'd start this threat in light of the interesting discussion earlier in terms of the whole "hot" vs. "cute" thing. So I was curious...if a woman tells you that you're very handsome, do you interpret that as meaning that you're "hot," or that you're "cute?"

Also, in terms of the DJ Bible, I haven't had a chance to read it, since I'm a newbie. Could someone please post a link for me to check it out?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cod3r

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Is this woman Japanese ??

It's in their culture to use 'handsome' for 'hot'


-Cod3r
 

Frank2500

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Re:

Ha, ha, ha. Good question, although funny. No, one who called me handsome was a White American lady; another White American lady called me "pretty cute" and then another, she looked Hispanic/biracial, met me at a bar in a club and whispered in my ear, "You're very handsome."
 

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Frank2500 said:
do you interpret that as meaning that you're "hot," or that you're "cute?"

Neither you ignore it and continue on trying to touch her boobs.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Personally I would assume it means the girl who finds you attractive actually has a vocabulary, is more intelligent than most and actually respects you.

Oh.. and likes you, a lot.

However given it came from the mouth of a female, it could mean a million and one different things, good or bad! :D

The Muscly Jerk
 

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Thank you works pretty well
 

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What the hell! Who cares "how to interpret" it? If she tells you you're hansome there's only one thing to do, and that's throw down your game. It's f*cking show time and you're on center stage! Do you get me?! That hot vs cute thing was retarded anyway. They're synonomus terms so they mean exactly the same thing. If a girl tells me I'm hot, I'm cute, I'm hansome, I'm attractive, I'm gorgeous, I'm breath taking, I'm show stopping etc etc, THEY ARE SAYING EXACTLY THE SAME THING. They like how I look physically and now it's up to me to game them using my skills as a player.
 

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for men ---- for women
pretty/cute ---- cute
hot/i'd hit it ---- hot
beautiful ---- handsome(i guess?)

i'd call a girl cute if she has a good looking face, but not really trying to get in her pants anymore than the next girl.

i'd say hot if it was a girl i was trying to get into her pants

and beautiful i use with more respect and lots of beauty.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dynamicallyidle

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Frank2500 said:
Ha, ha, ha. Good question, although funny. No, one who called me handsome was a White American lady; another White American lady called me "pretty cute" and then another, she looked Hispanic/biracial, met me at a bar in a club and whispered in my ear, "You're very handsome."
what do you think these statements mean, einstein? grow a brain
 

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DON'T INTERPRET IT AT ALL!

Analysing and intellectualizing is for nerds. This took me a long time to get my head around, but you need to chill out and just accept things like this at face value. She paid you a compliment, that's good. Nothing more needs to be said.
 

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PRMoon said:
What the hell! Who cares "how to interpret" it? If she tells you you're hansome there's only one thing to do, and that's throw down your game. It's f*cking show time and you're on center stage! Do you get me?! That hot vs cute thing was retarded anyway. They're synonomus terms so they mean exactly the same thing. If a girl tells me I'm hot, I'm cute, I'm hansome, I'm attractive, I'm gorgeous, I'm breath taking, I'm show stopping etc etc, THEY ARE SAYING EXACTLY THE SAME THING. They like how I look physically and now it's up to me to game them using my skills as a player.

Jariel said:
DON'T INTERPRET IT AT ALL!

Analysing and intellectualizing is for nerds. This took me a long time to get my head around, but you need to chill out and just accept things like this at face value. She paid you a compliment, that's good. Nothing more needs to be said.
Good thing the Common Sense Calvery showed up when it did eh?
 

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BAD RESPONSES:
Her: Wow, your very handsome
Me: Gee, Thanks? (Insecure)

BETTER RESPONSE:
Her: Your very handsome
Me: I'm so much more. What's your name?

BAD RESPONSE:
Her: Your very handsome
Me: So are you.. I Mean beautiful.. err fvck
Her: (looks at you weird)

BETTER C&F RESPONSE
Her: Your very handsome
Me: I'm Charm (said smiling and looking into her eyes). I'll let you get away with two more compliments and then i'm resetting your points.
 

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i see handsome as being "well put together" which includes looks, way i dress, and carry myself.

period.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i think it's a good sign, you shouldn't waste time analyzing it.
 
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