"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When a Woman Tells You You're Handsome, How Do You Interpret It?

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I thought I'd start this threat in light of the interesting discussion earlier in terms of the whole "hot" vs. "cute" thing. So I was curious...if a woman tells you that you're very handsome, do you interpret that as meaning that you're "hot," or that you're "cute?"

Also, in terms of the DJ Bible, I haven't had a chance to read it, since I'm a newbie. Could someone please post a link for me to check it out?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is this woman Japanese ??

It's in their culture to use 'handsome' for 'hot'


-Cod3r
 

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Re:

Ha, ha, ha. Good question, although funny. No, one who called me handsome was a White American lady; another White American lady called me "pretty cute" and then another, she looked Hispanic/biracial, met me at a bar in a club and whispered in my ear, "You're very handsome."
 

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Frank2500 said:
do you interpret that as meaning that you're "hot," or that you're "cute?"

Neither you ignore it and continue on trying to touch her boobs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Personally I would assume it means the girl who finds you attractive actually has a vocabulary, is more intelligent than most and actually respects you.

Oh.. and likes you, a lot.

However given it came from the mouth of a female, it could mean a million and one different things, good or bad! :D

The Muscly Jerk
 

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Thank you works pretty well
 

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What the hell! Who cares "how to interpret" it? If she tells you you're hansome there's only one thing to do, and that's throw down your game. It's f*cking show time and you're on center stage! Do you get me?! That hot vs cute thing was retarded anyway. They're synonomus terms so they mean exactly the same thing. If a girl tells me I'm hot, I'm cute, I'm hansome, I'm attractive, I'm gorgeous, I'm breath taking, I'm show stopping etc etc, THEY ARE SAYING EXACTLY THE SAME THING. They like how I look physically and now it's up to me to game them using my skills as a player.
 

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for men ---- for women
pretty/cute ---- cute
hot/i'd hit it ---- hot
beautiful ---- handsome(i guess?)

i'd call a girl cute if she has a good looking face, but not really trying to get in her pants anymore than the next girl.

i'd say hot if it was a girl i was trying to get into her pants

and beautiful i use with more respect and lots of beauty.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Frank2500 said:
Ha, ha, ha. Good question, although funny. No, one who called me handsome was a White American lady; another White American lady called me "pretty cute" and then another, she looked Hispanic/biracial, met me at a bar in a club and whispered in my ear, "You're very handsome."
what do you think these statements mean, einstein? grow a brain
 

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DON'T INTERPRET IT AT ALL!

Analysing and intellectualizing is for nerds. This took me a long time to get my head around, but you need to chill out and just accept things like this at face value. She paid you a compliment, that's good. Nothing more needs to be said.
 

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PRMoon said:
What the hell! Who cares "how to interpret" it? If she tells you you're hansome there's only one thing to do, and that's throw down your game. It's f*cking show time and you're on center stage! Do you get me?! That hot vs cute thing was retarded anyway. They're synonomus terms so they mean exactly the same thing. If a girl tells me I'm hot, I'm cute, I'm hansome, I'm attractive, I'm gorgeous, I'm breath taking, I'm show stopping etc etc, THEY ARE SAYING EXACTLY THE SAME THING. They like how I look physically and now it's up to me to game them using my skills as a player.

Jariel said:
DON'T INTERPRET IT AT ALL!

Analysing and intellectualizing is for nerds. This took me a long time to get my head around, but you need to chill out and just accept things like this at face value. She paid you a compliment, that's good. Nothing more needs to be said.
Good thing the Common Sense Calvery showed up when it did eh?
 

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BAD RESPONSES:
Her: Wow, your very handsome
Me: Gee, Thanks? (Insecure)

BETTER RESPONSE:
Her: Your very handsome
Me: I'm so much more. What's your name?

BAD RESPONSE:
Her: Your very handsome
Me: So are you.. I Mean beautiful.. err fvck
Her: (looks at you weird)

BETTER C&F RESPONSE
Her: Your very handsome
Me: I'm Charm (said smiling and looking into her eyes). I'll let you get away with two more compliments and then i'm resetting your points.
 

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i see handsome as being "well put together" which includes looks, way i dress, and carry myself.

period.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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i think it's a good sign, you shouldn't waste time analyzing it.
 
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