"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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When a woman loses weight after getting divorced for "revenge", why couldn't she have done it before?

MatureDJ

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bcude

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Nothing motivates you like being rejected by someone you deeply care for. I assume it's the same for women.
Also being single makes you naturally want to raise your SMV as much as possible to find the best possible mate.
Third thing, women seem to be very into making a major change of some sort after a breakup, as in new haircut, clothes etc. (new happy life!) so that's that too.
 

RangerMIke

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Women know that their greatest asset are her looks and her attitude. When a married woman puts on weight and gets b1tchy it means she is not happy and has given up on the relationship. She is subconsciously hoping she will chase off the dude in her life. Once he is gone, she has to get another on the hook, so she'll drop the weight. I'm sure that there is a level of 'revenge' involved, but that indicates at some level that she cares about the dude she just shook off which is a big assumption.

Most women will not take proactive action to 'fix' as relationship, it's the man's job to get her emotions pointed in the right direction. If her emotions are right, and she remains attracted to the man in her life, she will take care of herself physically and mentally.
 

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
my opinion: It's pretty obvious the contempt a woman has for her husband when she loses weight after getting divorced instead of while being married. :down:
Right!!! And then all this wild sex she's having. When during marriage she had the man cucked.
 

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Once Fat always fat. There were a couple women that drop massive weight after high-school and i couldn't shake the image.
And what happens to all that skin?
Exactly.

I've actually dated gals that has lost good amount of weight and the skin is always there unless they get surgery, unless they were only temporarily fat. The lifelong fatties though can only take care of the excess skin through surgery. Where as the temporary fat ones may have their skin shrink back.

ADVICE to any DJ's looking for LTR's here where weight is a big thing for them:
Do not invest or get tied up with any gal that has to always workout or watches what she eats because once she gets complacement and secure in a relationship with you, I guarantee she will stop doing those things and gain the weight back. You wanna find gals that are naturally on the thin side and low maintenance where they don't really need to do a whole lot to look good.

I'll give Adele a good 4-5 years until she gives up on the looks thing and all that weight comes back. Of course she has money so she could basically go back in every year for liposuction and tummy tuck...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Who Dares Win

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We all have goals and we do what is necessary to obtain them if we want them bad enough.

Married fat women already reached theirs therefore have no reason to work hard, single women didnt reach theirs therefore are willing to put some work in it.

No polish guy ever heard of "game" or improves his clothes and life style till the late 00s for the simple fact that he could get decent girls for the simple fact of being there.
 

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Buyer beware. Once a chick establishes she's the type to let herself go when in a relationship, that will never change. So take a good look at her fat pics from when she was married because that's what you'll be dealing with once she gets too comfortable with you.
 

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Because she had no motivation for doing so. Motivation plays a huge role in day to day life. Once someone realises that they would have far better choices if they do xyz then many times they choose to do that.
 

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Do not invest or get tied up with any gal that has to always workout or watches what she eats because once she gets complacement and secure in a relationship with you, I guarantee she will stop doing those things and gain the weight back. You wanna find gals that are naturally on the thin side and low maintenance where they don't really need to do a whole lot to look good.
You could make the case that if you date girls who are "naturally thin" that when if/when they suddenly start gaining weight, they'll have no idea what to do. On the flip side, if a woman is obsessed with diet and exercise you'll know they have the ability to keep the weight off. If an LTR gets complacent with you and stops trying to be sexy, you've already lost.
 
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