manfrombelow
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When a woman breaks up with you....
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
zekko
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Yeah, it's a frustrating thing to feel like you are clicking with someone only for them to tell you that you aren't.
But the truth doesn't matter, the bottom line is they aren't attracted enough, and you have to move on.
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They sometimes do this so the situation doesn't get awkward or sticky.
MatureDJ
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And there is (this was in the good old days before texting) just not answering the damn phone and/or otherwise "always busy" (OK, that last one was one that was still virginal with me, and I should have bailed earlier
, but a man without options has to put up with that. )
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MatureDJ
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I think it takes a man a few times going through this to develop a strong callus about women in general - that when they have options (i.e., young & childless), you haven't secured anything, and she could monkey branch; heck, I think that one time I was the branch.
Just recently I had a good dialog with a younger gal, got her number, tried to contact her, and she just ghosted me. NEXT! I haven't been with a woman that is older and/or has had my child, so I have no data points about them at that stage of life. "Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
There’s no one else .. I’m going through family issues.
I just need to be alone for awhile.
It’s not you, it’s the situation.
Fake break ups are the best, had a few of those.. I’ve learnt to call their bluff and walk and go silent. That really pisses them off.
Not as much as fake break up piss me off - I just turn off like a switch.
Ever had an ex GF say ‘why didn’t you fight for me?’ Months after they’ve dumped you and broken your heart. That’s happened twice (both times Eastern Europeans) Imo ice cold women. Biggest turn off ever. I avoid them like the plague now.
I just need to be alone for awhile.
It’s not you, it’s the situation.
Fake break ups are the best, had a few of those.. I’ve learnt to call their bluff and walk and go silent. That really pisses them off.
Not as much as fake break up piss me off - I just turn off like a switch.
Ever had an ex GF say ‘why didn’t you fight for me?’ Months after they’ve dumped you and broken your heart. That’s happened twice (both times Eastern Europeans) Imo ice cold women. Biggest turn off ever. I avoid them like the plague now.