manfrombelow
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman breaks up with you....
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
zekko
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Yeah, it's a frustrating thing to feel like you are clicking with someone only for them to tell you that you aren't.
But the truth doesn't matter, the bottom line is they aren't attracted enough, and you have to move on.
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They sometimes do this so the situation doesn't get awkward or sticky.
MatureDJ
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And there is (this was in the good old days before texting) just not answering the damn phone and/or otherwise "always busy" (OK, that last one was one that was still virginal with me, and I should have bailed earlier
, but a man without options has to put up with that. )
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MatureDJ
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I think it takes a man a few times going through this to develop a strong callus about women in general - that when they have options (i.e., young & childless), you haven't secured anything, and she could monkey branch; heck, I think that one time I was the branch.
Just recently I had a good dialog with a younger gal, got her number, tried to contact her, and she just ghosted me. NEXT! I haven't been with a woman that is older and/or has had my child, so I have no data points about them at that stage of life. "Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
There’s no one else .. I’m going through family issues.
I just need to be alone for awhile.
It’s not you, it’s the situation.
Fake break ups are the best, had a few of those.. I’ve learnt to call their bluff and walk and go silent. That really pisses them off.
Not as much as fake break up piss me off - I just turn off like a switch.
Ever had an ex GF say ‘why didn’t you fight for me?’ Months after they’ve dumped you and broken your heart. That’s happened twice (both times Eastern Europeans) Imo ice cold women. Biggest turn off ever. I avoid them like the plague now.
I just need to be alone for awhile.
It’s not you, it’s the situation.
Fake break ups are the best, had a few of those.. I’ve learnt to call their bluff and walk and go silent. That really pisses them off.
Not as much as fake break up piss me off - I just turn off like a switch.
Ever had an ex GF say ‘why didn’t you fight for me?’ Months after they’ve dumped you and broken your heart. That’s happened twice (both times Eastern Europeans) Imo ice cold women. Biggest turn off ever. I avoid them like the plague now.