"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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when a girl says "u must be very popular"

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what does this mean?

does it mean that the girl has some insecurities deep down or is it some kind of sarcasm?

i got this when the girl that i was seeing saw a bunch of pics of me partying and chilling with other girls and after that she just started playing more and more games with me and basically stopped chilling with me
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"I know! I make Jesus Christ look like a pile of puke!'
 
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carlitos said:
what does this mean?

does it mean that the girl has some insecurities deep down or is it some kind of sarcasm?

i got this when the girl that i was seeing saw a bunch of pics of me partying and chilling with other girls and after that she just started playing more and more games with me and basically stopped chilling with me
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It means you have passed the social proof test and you are in with a great chance.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hmm ok..that sounds reasonable

but i guess because of that she's starting to play a lot of games with me and starting to flake on me a lot...i do think she's waiting for some kind of real talk..

how should i approach this now?
 
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Say: Come hang with me and I'll make you popular.
 
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It means you have passed the social proof test and you are in with a great chance.
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This is probably it. If she's playing games, it could be a sign that she is trying to draw you in.

There could be a chance that all the pictures with tons of chick was a turn off for her. In other words, she sees loads of competition and isn't up for that. But in the end, it's far better if a girl sees you as being desirable to friends and other girls than thinking she can have you all to herself. If she is the rare case that this totally backfired, move on and forget about her.
 
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carlitos said:
hmm ok..that sounds reasonable

but i guess because of that she's starting to play a lot of games with me and starting to flake on me a lot...i do think she's waiting for some kind of real talk..

how should i approach this now?
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Question for you.

If she's not that interested in you, why are you wasting your time chasing someone who doesn't like you? Do you really want a relationship with a women who doesn't like you enough to keep her plans with you, which will lead to her disrespecting you in the future because she doesn't like you that much?

Flaking is a direct result of LOW IL. Its because you didn't create attraction when you were interacting with her up to that point. So stop focussing on the flake and focus on what your doing wrong. Step up your game gentelmen.
 
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I'm even bigger in Japan.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Could mean you have a reputation. Nothing to worry about though, being popular has never been construed as negative so there's no real reason to worry about it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Entropy4 said:
It probably means she thinks you're popular.

Don't over-complicate things.
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Good one.
 
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