when a girl never uses your name

[ulsterman]

The girl I was engaged to for 5 years, and whom I dated for nearly 7 years, never addressed me by my first name. Always "honey" or, occasionally, my surname, but never my first name (not until the night we broke up). Weird. Another girl I am interested in also has this strange habit... There's nothing unsual about my name, as it's quite a popular one, so what can it be? Has anyone any interesting theories on this?

 

[die4me]

If your name is some really long name, I would understand but you say your name is a common one. Maybe she thinks she sounds stupid saying it. My girlfriend never calls me by my first name either. She does sometimes but not often.

 

[ulsterman]

No, it ain't a long name...

 

[HeyPretty]

Meh.

If that's the only problem you had, you're a lucky bastard. lol.

Why not make a joke of it. Get one of those "Hello My Name Is:" tags, and wear it around the house. Point to it when she calls you SnuggleBumPuddingCake or whathave you.

 

[JohnJones]

I have an entirely different take on the name use. A lot of my co-workers will use my first name in the middle of a sentence because I believe they read somewhere that that helps establish rapport, etc. For those that I like a lot, it has the opposite effect because I believe the rapport is a given and the use of the name seems mechanical.

Another way I look at it is when your girl goes from leaving messages saying "Hi, it's [name]" to leaving messages like "Hi, it's me..."