"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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When a Girl Gets Nervous...Doesn't It Make You Nervous?

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I don't know but when girls blush and stuff it makes me nervous actually. Especially when they get nervous around me, it makes me nervous.

Suggestions? I know I need to lighten up and smile more, etc. but I'm not a funny guy, or at least not any more. What kinds of things can I do make us both smile?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dotcomwill said:
What leads up to her/you being nervous? Something you say or something?
When he pulls out his gun and says "take your pants off" hahaha.
 

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Nervous girls probably like you. What you can try to do is be aware of the situation. Like, "hey I know this girl is nervous. I'm confident, and I'm going to try to make her feel better and more comfortable". Just having that intention, you'll figure out what to do, hopefully.

If she really likes you, the absolute lamest, stupidest joke on earth coming out of your mouth, to her, will be the funniest thing she has heard in her entire life (and half the time they'll crack up before you even finish. They aren't listening anyway).

What happened to your sense of humor? You stopped having one, or you stopped being "fake funny" to gain approval?
 

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reset is right, laughter has a way of making everything better.
just don't do those mean cynical kind...
 

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basically most girls are nervous some show it more then others that is all.

I expect a girl to be nervous. After all, I'm the one interviewing them and their qualities.
This shouldn't make you nervous it should make you feel in control.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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00Kevin said:
basically most girls are nervous some show it more then others that is all.

I expect a girl to be nervous. After all, I'm the one interviewing them and their qualities.
This shouldn't make you nervous it should make you feel in control.
Hey, that makes sense, thanks for that perspective. I should feel more in control, good point. For some reason I've always felt like she's nervous because I'm creepy or something. Just been insecure about it, but I guess what you're saying makes more sense.
 

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reset is right, laughter has a way of making everything better.
just don't do those mean cynical kind...
You know, some times I try to lighten up the situation and accidently make fun of the girl. Like, when I say something C+F it feels like I insulted her.
 

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hey attraction,

u said you were leaving this site and u were gonna open up sosymp.com

what happened to that?
 

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vegas_pimp said:
hey attraction,

u said you were leaving this site and u were gonna open up sosymp.com

what happened to that?
Yeah, I know. I've been a little busy. Sosymp is still undergoing the late stages of construction and organization. The grand-opening has been re-scheduled for July 1, 2007. I will post a thread about it then.
 
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