"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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When a Girl Gets Nervous...Doesn't It Make You Nervous?

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I don't know but when girls blush and stuff it makes me nervous actually. Especially when they get nervous around me, it makes me nervous.

Suggestions? I know I need to lighten up and smile more, etc. but I'm not a funny guy, or at least not any more. What kinds of things can I do make us both smile?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dotcomwill said:
What leads up to her/you being nervous? Something you say or something?
When he pulls out his gun and says "take your pants off" hahaha.
 

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Nervous girls probably like you. What you can try to do is be aware of the situation. Like, "hey I know this girl is nervous. I'm confident, and I'm going to try to make her feel better and more comfortable". Just having that intention, you'll figure out what to do, hopefully.

If she really likes you, the absolute lamest, stupidest joke on earth coming out of your mouth, to her, will be the funniest thing she has heard in her entire life (and half the time they'll crack up before you even finish. They aren't listening anyway).

What happened to your sense of humor? You stopped having one, or you stopped being "fake funny" to gain approval?
 

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reset is right, laughter has a way of making everything better.
just don't do those mean cynical kind...
 

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basically most girls are nervous some show it more then others that is all.

I expect a girl to be nervous. After all, I'm the one interviewing them and their qualities.
This shouldn't make you nervous it should make you feel in control.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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00Kevin said:
basically most girls are nervous some show it more then others that is all.

I expect a girl to be nervous. After all, I'm the one interviewing them and their qualities.
This shouldn't make you nervous it should make you feel in control.
Hey, that makes sense, thanks for that perspective. I should feel more in control, good point. For some reason I've always felt like she's nervous because I'm creepy or something. Just been insecure about it, but I guess what you're saying makes more sense.
 

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penkitten said:
reset is right, laughter has a way of making everything better.
just don't do those mean cynical kind...
You know, some times I try to lighten up the situation and accidently make fun of the girl. Like, when I say something C+F it feels like I insulted her.
 

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hey attraction,

u said you were leaving this site and u were gonna open up sosymp.com

what happened to that?
 

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vegas_pimp said:
hey attraction,

u said you were leaving this site and u were gonna open up sosymp.com

what happened to that?
Yeah, I know. I've been a little busy. Sosymp is still undergoing the late stages of construction and organization. The grand-opening has been re-scheduled for July 1, 2007. I will post a thread about it then.
 
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