"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When a Girl Gets Nervous...Doesn't It Make You Nervous?

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I don't know but when girls blush and stuff it makes me nervous actually. Especially when they get nervous around me, it makes me nervous.

Suggestions? I know I need to lighten up and smile more, etc. but I'm not a funny guy, or at least not any more. What kinds of things can I do make us both smile?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dotcomwill said:
What leads up to her/you being nervous? Something you say or something?
When he pulls out his gun and says "take your pants off" hahaha.
 

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Nervous girls probably like you. What you can try to do is be aware of the situation. Like, "hey I know this girl is nervous. I'm confident, and I'm going to try to make her feel better and more comfortable". Just having that intention, you'll figure out what to do, hopefully.

If she really likes you, the absolute lamest, stupidest joke on earth coming out of your mouth, to her, will be the funniest thing she has heard in her entire life (and half the time they'll crack up before you even finish. They aren't listening anyway).

What happened to your sense of humor? You stopped having one, or you stopped being "fake funny" to gain approval?
 

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reset is right, laughter has a way of making everything better.
just don't do those mean cynical kind...
 

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basically most girls are nervous some show it more then others that is all.

I expect a girl to be nervous. After all, I'm the one interviewing them and their qualities.
This shouldn't make you nervous it should make you feel in control.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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00Kevin said:
basically most girls are nervous some show it more then others that is all.

I expect a girl to be nervous. After all, I'm the one interviewing them and their qualities.
This shouldn't make you nervous it should make you feel in control.
Hey, that makes sense, thanks for that perspective. I should feel more in control, good point. For some reason I've always felt like she's nervous because I'm creepy or something. Just been insecure about it, but I guess what you're saying makes more sense.
 

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penkitten said:
reset is right, laughter has a way of making everything better.
just don't do those mean cynical kind...
You know, some times I try to lighten up the situation and accidently make fun of the girl. Like, when I say something C+F it feels like I insulted her.
 

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hey attraction,

u said you were leaving this site and u were gonna open up sosymp.com

what happened to that?
 

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vegas_pimp said:
hey attraction,

u said you were leaving this site and u were gonna open up sosymp.com

what happened to that?
Yeah, I know. I've been a little busy. Sosymp is still undergoing the late stages of construction and organization. The grand-opening has been re-scheduled for July 1, 2007. I will post a thread about it then.
 
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