"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When a girl gets mad at you

tryst type

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what's the best way to apologize without handing over your power?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dole

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you ignore her for a bit so she starts getting crazy ideas through her head ( basically thinking why haven't you contacted her ) and then few day's later you start talking to her again but don't bring up what ever happend, if it really offended her she will bring it up and I guess you could apologise. If she asks why you haven't contacted her tell her you been busy.
 

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tryst type said:
what's the best way to apologize without handing over your power?
Most important question: Are you actually guilty? Followed by: Are you genuinely apologizing? 3) Are you willing to work at fixing the problem, if there is one?

Then you worry about the other stuff. See, it depends on a lot of factors including integrity, confidence, whther or not you're being genuine, etc...

If guilty, you apologize AND MEAN IT; then you promise to work on it. Then you do. You might make some small favor up to her (you flaked on a date, you owe her a date).

If you aren't guilty, then no need to apologize. Depending on the relationship, you can decide to apologize and not mean it, then you consider some small favor; but this method is only supposed to be temporary. I wouldn't recommend this more than once a month.

And ultimately, you show fairness in 90% of your decisions.
 

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i don't understand what you guys are saying but as for me when a girl gets mad at me i get maded even dow am wrong.i don't need to apologize cause she's mad at me,i calm her down by getting maded no matter what the situation is.apologize when she is mad at me is like ma begging her,don't live i still love you.
 

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Indifference is key, my friend. But like someone stated above, if you're actually in the wrong, then by all means apologize, and mean it. If she's just throwing a temper tantrum, then don't buy into her crap. That's only encouraging this kind of behavior.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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