"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tryst type

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what's the best way to apologize without handing over your power?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you ignore her for a bit so she starts getting crazy ideas through her head ( basically thinking why haven't you contacted her ) and then few day's later you start talking to her again but don't bring up what ever happend, if it really offended her she will bring it up and I guess you could apologise. If she asks why you haven't contacted her tell her you been busy.
 

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tryst type said:
what's the best way to apologize without handing over your power?
Most important question: Are you actually guilty? Followed by: Are you genuinely apologizing? 3) Are you willing to work at fixing the problem, if there is one?

Then you worry about the other stuff. See, it depends on a lot of factors including integrity, confidence, whther or not you're being genuine, etc...

If guilty, you apologize AND MEAN IT; then you promise to work on it. Then you do. You might make some small favor up to her (you flaked on a date, you owe her a date).

If you aren't guilty, then no need to apologize. Depending on the relationship, you can decide to apologize and not mean it, then you consider some small favor; but this method is only supposed to be temporary. I wouldn't recommend this more than once a month.

And ultimately, you show fairness in 90% of your decisions.
 

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i don't understand what you guys are saying but as for me when a girl gets mad at me i get maded even dow am wrong.i don't need to apologize cause she's mad at me,i calm her down by getting maded no matter what the situation is.apologize when she is mad at me is like ma begging her,don't live i still love you.
 

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Indifference is key, my friend. But like someone stated above, if you're actually in the wrong, then by all means apologize, and mean it. If she's just throwing a temper tantrum, then don't buy into her crap. That's only encouraging this kind of behavior.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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