Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Were you hoping that it would blossom into a 20 page thread again like your old ones?Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
Enryu said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She finally replied. Here's what she saidFrancisco d'Anconia said:The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!
Yawn.... :yawn:My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
When are you guys going to realize that the majority of the time when a woman sends you a text is when she's bored and feels that she can put forth a half-assed effort to get some immediate attention. She needs an attention fix and what's an easier way to get it than sending out a text to two or three guys at once? I'm telling you, there will always be a guy ready to answer with a diatribe of interesting things. Then all of a sudden, something else gains the woman's attention and you don't hear anything from her until the next time she's bored? Don't believe me? Why do they always text you with "What are you doing?" and nothing else? If they insist on texting (and you insist on replying) at least make them make an effort to say something worthwhile.My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.