She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Were you hoping that it would blossom into a 20 page thread again like your old ones?Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
Enryu said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She finally replied. Here's what she saidFrancisco d'Anconia said:The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!
Yawn.... :yawn:My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
When are you guys going to realize that the majority of the time when a woman sends you a text is when she's bored and feels that she can put forth a half-assed effort to get some immediate attention. She needs an attention fix and what's an easier way to get it than sending out a text to two or three guys at once? I'm telling you, there will always be a guy ready to answer with a diatribe of interesting things. Then all of a sudden, something else gains the woman's attention and you don't hear anything from her until the next time she's bored? Don't believe me? Why do they always text you with "What are you doing?" and nothing else? If they insist on texting (and you insist on replying) at least make them make an effort to say something worthwhile.My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.