That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Were you hoping that it would blossom into a 20 page thread again like your old ones?Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
Enryu said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She finally replied. Here's what she saidFrancisco d'Anconia said:The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!
Yawn.... :yawn:My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
When are you guys going to realize that the majority of the time when a woman sends you a text is when she's bored and feels that she can put forth a half-assed effort to get some immediate attention. She needs an attention fix and what's an easier way to get it than sending out a text to two or three guys at once? I'm telling you, there will always be a guy ready to answer with a diatribe of interesting things. Then all of a sudden, something else gains the woman's attention and you don't hear anything from her until the next time she's bored? Don't believe me? Why do they always text you with "What are you doing?" and nothing else? If they insist on texting (and you insist on replying) at least make them make an effort to say something worthwhile.My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.