Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Were you hoping that it would blossom into a 20 page thread again like your old ones?Kingpin SkinnyPimp said:
Enryu said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She finally replied. Here's what she saidFrancisco d'Anconia said:The thing to remember is that her answer was an attempt to put you on the defense of reacting to her question which really meant "Ask me something interesting if you can..." Classic sh1t test from a woman who is use to having guys react to them. I say that if she wants to play that game, up the ante without playing highschool-like games; be specific. Don't ask me openly what I'd like to know because honey, I ask!
Yawn.... :yawn:My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
When are you guys going to realize that the majority of the time when a woman sends you a text is when she's bored and feels that she can put forth a half-assed effort to get some immediate attention. She needs an attention fix and what's an easier way to get it than sending out a text to two or three guys at once? I'm telling you, there will always be a guy ready to answer with a diatribe of interesting things. Then all of a sudden, something else gains the woman's attention and you don't hear anything from her until the next time she's bored? Don't believe me? Why do they always text you with "What are you doing?" and nothing else? If they insist on texting (and you insist on replying) at least make them make an effort to say something worthwhile.My Name is Nobody said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.