"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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When 2 dump a woman..

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Extreme disrespect - valid reasons for dumping your ex wife.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The last girl I dumped was in the end of January, because she was controlling, and trying to change me in minutest details.
Which made sense because she was a extremely successful in her carreer and accomplishments if you google her name you find the first pages on google referencing her name in scientific publications, career connections and even sports accomplishments, an alpha girl who only wants the best and it's her way or the highway.
She was submissive to me in the bedroom but in daily life was trying to control me and change me. This led to constant conflict and power struggles because I need my women to follow my lead. We cannot have 2 people trying to out alpha eachother.
She was blocking you from being the best possible version of youself, in which you'd be the happiest.

Valid reasons for dumping her.
 

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Good question. Been there done that lol. I think in those kinds of relationships there's a rollercoster of what aspects of a relationship trumps other aspects.
But after awhile you get dizzy and need to get off the ride. Then it feels boring because the other rides are not as exciting and and there's a sense of loss but with time you get on with things.

I've stuck around in a bad relationship, I've also had someone keep me around for longer than they should have when I wasn't that nice to them

One of my friends who is a male has this test he does to determine if he is going to emotionlly invest a woman. He asks himself 'if I were to marry her tomorrow, is there anything about her I can't live with, for the rest of my life?' If there is, he won't invest.

People don't change as much as we like to think they would, no matter what games we throw at them

I think that if we date someone long enough, they show us who they really are, and we decide whether or not we want to see that.
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Haha..

U r 1 clever lady..
 
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