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To much focused is placed in how to keep a woman happy/attracted, OLD, ONS, plates, bedding her, etc. I think you get my drift here.

What is never or almost never discussed is when to dump a woman.

So how does one knows when to let a woman go?

For me, i'll let her off when I feel she's pulling me down and sets me back in my life goals. If she truly cares and loves me then she will help and assist me in my goals.

Some men don't realize that most will succumb to pressures from their wife or girlfriend to do something that sets them back in life, example;

Purchasing the dream car/house/boat that's beyond your means and being in debt for it.

Going on a dream holiday which you can ill afford.

Stops your dream of being a lawyer and wants you to keep that steady accountant but boring job.

Etc...etc....etc.

Does this sound familiar?
 

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What is never or almost never discussed is when to dump a woman.
Have you been reading this forum? It's discussed daily in various forms.

So how does one knows when to let a woman go?
She makes you persistently unhappy in any way, shape or form.

Does this sound familiar?
Not really, maybe I'm not that far in. I doubt I'll ever get there though. I'd rather be single than to fvck myself up financially and what job satisfies me is certainly none of her damn business. I know these guys exist, but I'd hang myself before becoming like that.

Fortunately my girlfriend doesn't interfere with my freedom in any unreasonable way, if she ever did she'd be out fast and she knows it.
 

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I think there should be a rule that you must have experience spinning multiple plates for several years before even considering settling down into an LTR with a girl. I didn't do that and paid a price of misery to stay with a girl who was so smoking hot that I thought I'd never get anything close ever again. Until you KNOW you will always have plenty of awesome options, you'll likely never be able to dump a girl. At least, that has been my experience. Wish I knew then what I know now.
 

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"When 2 dump a woman.."

When this happens:

 

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The last girl I dumped was in the end of January, because she was controlling, and trying to change me in minutest details.
Which made sense because she was a extremely successful in her carreer and accomplishments if you google her name you find the first pages on google referencing her name in scientific publications, career connections and even sports accomplishments, an alpha girl who only wants the best and it's her way or the highway.
She was submissive to me in the bedroom but in daily life was trying to control me and change me. This led to constant conflict and power struggles because I need my women to follow my lead. We cannot have 2 people trying to out alpha eachother.
 

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Anyone, man or woman, who is depleting your life rather than complimeting it is not worth your investment. Life is too short to tether to people who drain your happiness.
What about those that simultaneously do both - fill your life with joy, excitement and acknowledgement - but also drain, stress and anger you. Then you let them go and the former is missing from your life.
 

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To much focused is placed in how to keep a woman happy/attracted, OLD, ONS, plates, bedding her, etc. I think you get my drift here.

What is never or almost never discussed is when to dump a woman.
Good topic.

For me, it's when I feel any level of disrespect, and depending on the level, I'll respond with a Hard Next or Silence and Distance (S & D).

For example, one girl I've been seeing for 5 weeks has shown consistently high interest. This week she canceled our plans with less than a 24-hour notice due to "work related issues." This is the second cancellation of plans over the past 5 weeks.

Good ol' Guru does take kindly to canceled plans last minute, especially from women where rapport is deeply established. So I employed S & D. She has since texted ," I miss you bla bla bla" and called. I didn't respond to either. I'm in doubt as to whether I will ever respond. We'll see how I feel next week.
 

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The last girl I dumped was in the end of January, because she was controlling, and trying to change me in minutest details.
Which made sense because she was a extremely successful in her carreer and accomplishments if you google her name you find the first pages on google referencing her name in scientific publications, career connections and even sports accomplishments, an alpha girl who only wants the best and it's her way or the highway.
She was submissive to me in the bedroom but in daily life was trying to control me and change me. This led to constant conflict and power struggles because I need my women to follow my lead. We cannot have 2 people trying to out alpha eachother.
I hear you, me personally I like to be lead, it's something I'm working on but I do want someone, sometimes, to just lay it out for me.
 

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The second sign of overt, intense disrespect. You can take then back after if they show contrition and understanding, but you should absolutely dump then. IME taking them back was usually a mistake though.

Off the top of my head, some big ones:

1. Negs/sh1t tests in bed
2. Triangulation with other men to create jealousy
3. Flirting with other men esp in front of you
4. Dissatisfaction with you even when they know you're busy
5. Complaining about money
6. Complaining that you're not romantic enough
7. Extremely rude insults
 
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What about those that simultaneously do both - fill your life with joy, excitement and acknowledgement - but also drain, stress and anger you. Then you let them go and the former is missing from your life.
It's which side of the scales it rests on. Still in the honeymoon period with my GF so it's like 99.9% but if it's ever below 50% you've probably got a ****ty relationship and it's time to do some thinking.
 

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I dropped a young beautiful 28yo lawyer and was immediately castigated by friends.

Everyone was saying she's such a catch.

There's too much divergence in our life paths. I enjoy the outdoors; swimming, hiking, jogging, camping, rafting etc.

She enjoys windows shopping, high end tea's, high society dinners etc. I can tolerate some of her activities a few times per month but I simply can't keep up with it every single week, i hated it.

And she hated being outdoors.
 

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I dropped a young beautiful 28yo lawyer and was immediately castigated by friends.

Everyone was saying she's such a catch.

There's too much divergence in our life paths. I enjoy the outdoors; swimming, hiking, jogging, camping, rafting etc.

She enjoys windows shopping, high end tea's, high society dinners etc. I can tolerate some of her activities a few times per month but I simply can't keep up with it every single week, i hated it.

And she hated being outdoors.
Don't know about that Spaz.

Is she attractive? Educated/intelligent enough? Good convo? Treats you good? Respects you? No drama? Enhances your life in any way? Doesn't detract from your purpose? Traditional-minded insofar as she respects gender roles? No extensive mileage? Raised from a good family? Flexible, willing to do things you like? These are the important questions.

Differences in entertainment interests come secondary.

Compatibility to me rests more upon values than interests. My entertainment interests (outside of my purpose) are fluid and I'd be more than happy to try new things of entertainment value.
 

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Don't know about that Spaz.

Is she attractive? Educated/intelligent enough? Good convo? Treats you good? Respects you? No drama? Enhances your life in any way? Doesn't detract from your purpose? Traditional-minded insofar as she respects gender roles? No extensive mileage? Raised from a good family? Flexible, willing to do things you like? These are the important questions.

Differences in entertainment interests come secondary.

Compatibility to me rests more upon values than interests. My entertainment interests (outside of my purpose) are fluid and I'd be more than happy to try new things of entertainment value.
Beautiful, s€xy, highly intelligent etc. She's a product of an aristocratic family and raised by one. Hence her predisposition towards high society trappings. Incidentally that's where we met and was immediately taken by not only her beauty but also her mannerisms, her intellectual mind and her feminity.

Yes she fits into almost any man's idea of a dream wife, and I was her idea of the perfect Prince/Caveman. In order to indulge her, I'd be forced to forgo what I enjoy doing on a weekly basis.

And yes, i do dabble in high society gatherings, my social calender is littered with invitations and I'm there mostly for maintaining connections.

Ive noticed that men and women are trapped by statuses and maintaining their reputation.

An example, the status of a happily married man; is having a beautiful wife and kids.

In actuality many are not happy but trapped because of society's idea of a happy marriage. Being trapped with an idea that's detrimental towards your happiness and life.

So what I'm trying to say is, live your life as you want it, and if a women enters your life then she must accept who you are and joins in your life.

Yes a man must have purpose but he also must not be trapped by society's expectations to be truly happy.
 
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What about those that simultaneously do both - fill your life with joy, excitement and acknowledgement - but also drain, stress and anger you. Then you let them go and the former is missing from your life.
Good question. Been there done that lol. I think in those kinds of relationships there's a rollercoster of what aspects of a relationship trumps other aspects.
But after awhile you get dizzy and need to get off the ride. Then it feels boring because the other rides are not as exciting and and there's a sense of loss but with time you get on with things.

I've stuck around in a bad relationship, I've also had someone keep me around for longer than they should have when I wasn't that nice to them

One of my friends who is a male has this test he does to determine if he is going to emotionlly invest a woman. He asks himself 'if I were to marry her tomorrow, is there anything about her I can't live with, for the rest of my life?' If there is, he won't invest.

People don't change as much as we like to think they would, no matter what games we throw at them

I think that if we date someone long enough, they show us who they really are, and we decide whether or not we want to see that.
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