What's wrong with Mr. Nice Guy?

[John Constantine]

Great post dude!

To provide an example, the last woman I dated, I was always so desperate to see her that I would

a) Stay up late to talk on the phone when I had to wake at 4am
b) Would go completely out of my way to see her for lunch or other times
c) I bought her gifts when nothing was done in return
d) I cancelled on events with friends to hang out with her

All things I should not have done! I was compromising myself. I should have just cut it off wayyyy earlier when I could only see her every two weeks.

Women want men that will say "no" as crazy as that sounds. There is a big difference between being "nice" and being "the nice guy"

I can relate so much to that

 

[mrgoodstuff]

hmm im jerk to women all the time but no sechs neither here. that nice guy thing is overrated.

So your jerk sauce isn't getting you laid?

 

[Red Legg]

hmm im jerk to women all the time but no sechs neither here. that nice guy thing is overrated.

I can tell by the way you post that you are a nice guy...I am an absolute assh0LE and get laid regular..I can tell the difference...

 

[Mike32ct]

Gonna go against the grain here.

Most (not all) nice guys aren't the evil people they are made out to be. Some might be naive or too bluepill in how they view relationships, but that's no crime.

There's nothing wrong with being nice. If she rejects a guy (or friend-zones him) and call him a "nice guy," in that context, she simply doesn't find him good looking.

His personality is good enough to be her friend, and she may even WANT to be his friend, but for dating, she suddenly finds his "personality" flawed lol. It just sounds SO very, very disingenuous. So I think it's more of a looks issue than women let on.