"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What's wrong with me?

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Is it my face? the fact that i'm bald or bad head shape or just something that turns women off just by looking at me?

Is it just that i'm not likeable, a people person?

What can i do to get out of the creepy zone?

i can post pics if you guys want, maybe what women dont tell me you guys can, i dont care if i look like ****, creepy a uggo, i just want to understand and ****ing do something about it.

Yeah im outta shape, i'm ****ing bald which doesnt help, i have a double chin, and i need a tan, but will that really help if a guy is a uggo / creepy?

Also if women base their decisions on the first time they look at a guy, then i have no chance with the ones i know, because for them no matter how i change, they have already made their minds in the first time they saw me.


ok here are some of them

http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/z416/Picollo30/paulo3smalledited.png
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http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums...66_1021648521230249_3645036614695618758_n.jpg

can it be the fact that i'm ****ing bald with a ****ing double chin? Do i have written in my face ***** you can disrespect me ?
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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what do you mean by features? you mean like smiling or faking a smile even when you dont feel the need to?
 

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Take pride in who you are. That's the real secret - if you can't do that. Make it your personal mission to do what it takes to like yourself for who you are!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i knew it.i'm ****ed.

confidence? what confidence when you are handed a ****ty deck of cards to play
 

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i knew it.i'm ****ed.

confidence? what confidence when you are handed a ****ty deck of cards to play
Then get yourself a new deck brother.

Confidence at its core is understanding the limits you have are your own - and overcoming it

You obviously have a desire to be better - because the current you isn't what you want - that's a great start
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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as in another thread... I am bald, bad teeth, old and have a bad external body image.
I get smiles from 16-60yo women daily.

OP I want you to try something. When you are walking around, think of a funny joke or silly secret that makes you grin, or nearly giggle... it produces a fun smile on your face.

From your pics, I would also shave/trim your facial hair. I say facial hair because that you have is not a beard. It looks like you are trying to hard to look young, like a teenager with unshaven wisps. Try just the mustache/goatee if you like facial hair.
 

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as in another thread... I am bald, bad teeth, old and have a bad external body image.
I get smiles from 16-60yo women daily.

OP I want you to try something. When you are walking around, think of a funny joke or silly secret that makes you grin, or nearly giggle... it produces a fun smile on your face.

From your pics, I would also shave/trim your facial hair. I say facial hair because that you have is not a beard. It looks like you are trying to hard to look young, like a teenager with unshaven wisps. Try just the mustache/goatee if you like facial hair.

Shows how important attitude is! Good on you brother
 

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From what I read, I believe what would help is a more positive mindset. You might be a little too in your head and you are probably over analyzing. The notion in your post seems to be saying that ALL women think you're ugly and creepy which I do not think is true at all. Accept the fact that A LOT of women will feel this way BUT not ALL. I strike out A LOT but I have had at least 1 out of 15 girls who are at least willing to go out on a date with me.

Also I believe that core confidence is important, the "inner game" so to speak. I believe that it starts with self acceptance, now that doesn't mean to let yourself go and gain massive weight. Accept yourself and BUILD UPON yourself. You're balding? Shave your head or wear a hat. Pale and don't like it? Get a tan. Chubby with a double chin? Hit the gym. Also it's probably your body language as well. You have this fear of what women might think about you that it might be manifesting itself externally.

Also, I believe another way to become more confidence is to not give a fvck. By this, I mean, be passionate about something, get a hobby, or even just going to the gym and working out and focusing on yourself. When I workout or I'm doing my hobby, nothing else matters and honestly, that's when I'm the most happiest and don't need validation from others. I think that once you're in this state, you'll have this aura about yourself that will attract people to you like moths to a flame.
 

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Mate seriously what would be wrong with just joining up a couple of Sports. Instant Fitness program and gets you out of your head immediately. And if you turn up regularly people may even start talking to you. Go to meetup.com and start clicking on a couple of groups. U can do that this weekend. How hard can it be?
 

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Didn't look at the pictures before now. If you haven't read the link I posted before, then please take a look at it.

You're not ugly on the outside, you're ugly as fvck on the inside though. You believe you're ugly, you come here seeking validation for your beliefs. You're not physically unattractive, not repulsive in any way.

I've discovered you have done quite some plastic surgery. I'm gonna say stop being insecure about your looks right fvcking now, any more changes and you might look like a plastic freak. Work on your mind instead, that's where you'll find your ugly things. You are NOT ugly or creepy, you're just psychologically repulsive. You can't fix that with brain surgery, you gotta re-program your mind the old fashioned way.

I keep editing this post as I dig up old information about you. It doesn't matter what we tell you does it? I found this old thread from another forum a year ago. Your surgery obviously didn't do sh!t to your self-esteem, so again I suggest it's your mind and not your looks. Here's the post: https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/being-called-a-creep/
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I have no idea what you are talking about with the I'm bad looking sh!t. You are not. You might not be a model but how many of us are? I'm not and I have no issues getting women.

Dude, if you just believed in yourself and acted like it, you'd have no problem going into a club tonight and pulling a 7 at least based on looks.

Your mindset is what holds you back, not your looks.
 

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what do you mean by features? you mean like smiling or faking a smile even when you dont feel the need to?
You don't feel the need to smile because you're insecure about your teeth, I've seen from the pictures so I understand. Smiling confidently with odd teeth is better than hiding them, trust me on that. One of my front teeth are out of place, it's really obvious when I smile. Never been a problem.
 
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