"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what's up with this? ********?

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The girl says "I dont have anyone to go out for coffee, nobody wants to go with me, they are all busy" is it ******** for ask me out?

But she turned me off when I aked what did she get for her birthday and she says: My male friend is on holiday so nothing,only money from my parents, my friends dont give presents.

I'll go for it none the less, even if she has a BF, I'll fukk her and leave her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by napoleon
The girl says "I dont have anyone to go out for coffee, nobody wants to go with me, they are all busy" is it ******** for ask me out?

Off course she's saying to get her to ask her out. What you need to do is turn up a notch and call her a geek for wanting to go out for coffee. Then you invite her to a brief get-together somewhere in a public place, it can be coffee, but the point is that you're gonna bust her balls and let her know you are much cooler than her or any of her friends.
 

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OK now i need another opinion. I'll ask her out but like this.
As she will pass a difficult exam Ill say-"Now we can go out and celebrate!". What do you think?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've had the same happen to me; kept saying she had no-one to go to the movies with "i guess i'll just go and be a loner" etc. Being so clueless in identifying hints, i suggested a few other people (just trying to be helpful)... I don't think she even ended up going.

So now you know what not to do.
 

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Originally posted by napoleon
What about the asking out?
Well obviously what I did got me nowhere, so I guess if you want her, go after her and ask her out. I think your suggestion of celebrating would work well.
 

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i don't think you want to ask her out. I mean look at you you guys aren't even messing around and you are already complaning about her whinning habits... what is it that you guys say ??? Uhmm NEXT!!!
 

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Either I dont understand what we are talking about or you dont.
We didn't mention complaining.
What on earth are you talking about?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by napoleon
OK now i need another opinion. I'll ask her out but like this.
As she will pass a difficult exam Ill say-"Now we can go out and celebrate!". What do you think?
"Congratulations, now you get to hang out with me, where are are you gonna take me out so we can celebrate?"

Don't worry too much on what her response will be, as in yes, or now, or maybe. Who cares? This answer will start changing the dynamics in your favor, as in she must pass, be good enough, cool enough in order for you to give her a chance to kick it with you. But you must not screw it up by putting too much importance and resorting to chump behavior.
 

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I like it,any more suggestions(like that one)?
 

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Question-what if she fails. How could I ask her out then?
 
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