"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mrchunglee

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Im been reading up on this subject but I have yet to understand it. When a girl likes me they seem to go crazy when they have to chase. They ask to hang out, have sex, etc. My problem is that i dont have the most free time in the world (work, school, sports). When i try to chase a female it never works, its like they automatically feel like they have higher value. Should I continue to be chased or is there a happy medium i should be following. Thanks guys
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jay Dee

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You've seemingly got the right attitude bro. Keeping a busy lifestyle, with ladies coming somewhere behind. Because when they go off on their own tangent as they do at times, you don't get too distracted, if at all. You shouldn't chase them, they should be chasing you, that way they feel they've earned you, which works out a lot better in the whole social dynamic.

As you're the guy, if you're interested in a chick, you should generally instigate proceedings, you are starting to chase if you instigate more than a couple of times and not get much in return, whether it's regular dates and/or sex. If you come across her path occasionally after that then be civil, but don't instigate again - she can though as you've more than shown your interest.

Make sure you're instigating regularly as it's a bit of a numbers game too, the more chicks you come across, the more of a chance you have of coming across a decent girl. I take it the chicks that are chasing you aren't that nice and/or you're looking for a relationship? If they were hot or you just wanted sex, you would be finding the time I'm sure.
 

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It just seems like a hard concept. The really hot girls seem like they want to be chase (ie. no effort to call or text) i just have to find out how i can put my self out there then be chased again
 

Lord Sidious

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That´s the problem: chasing chicks. Most of the time doesn´t work. Being chased by them it´s the right thing.

Being busy is good, but man, you should have some time to girls. I´m sure you can do it! :)


Good luck!
 
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